More of a wwyd but when traumatised/ down how do you stop being picked on by abusers etc?

[malificent7]

Be gentle. Posting for traffic. I think i have Ptsd after difficult childhood. Looking back, I have been targeted by various abusers/ false friends when at my lowest thus adding to the trauma.

Like in nature, predators sense weaknesses and pounce.

Anyone managed to heal and/ or shield themselves from unscrupulous people when down?

Being too nice ( and a bit gullible) like me has not served me well.

I think this is a situation where professional counselling/therapy to discuss things like boundaries and self-esteem would definitely help.

Thank you. I am on the waiting list for some councellibg. I have definately noticed that some people have reacted badly to my better boundaries.

I suppose there is a bit of an aibu in that....aibu to think that people do pick on vulnerable people?...they smell weakness. I am trying to imagine a protective shield to ward of these fuckers!
People react badly to boundaries as they can't make use of you in the aame way.

Don't assume that everyone is nice, and will have your best interests at heart. Hold people metaphorically at arm's length.

You are right. People sense insecurity and judge us on how we see ourselves.

I think you may benefit from professional advice

But I find these help me - as I get older,
I've developed better self esteem, worry a bit less about other people's feelings, I'm more comfortable with agreeing to disagree, less trusting of people I don't know well

And I absolutely think people can sniff out vulnerability

So, well done making first steps by seeking support. Good luck

Have a look at the Freedom Programme. I'd recommend you do it in person. It's designed for exactly the kind of situation you're in and protecting yourself in the future.