To focus on the negatives after my mum passed

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My mum died about a year ago. At the moment all I can think of were the things she got wrong and I’m so sick of it. As a parent I see she was trying to do her best, and she did some awesome stuff for me. I want to refocus on the fact that she made me independent, with a will to succeed and an ability to find myself and the world ridiculous. How do I get there?

Sounds like you are getting there. It's hard to work through this at any time, and it's additionally complicated now that the element of moving forward in the relationship is removed - it's all about resolving your own feelings. You're already doing this, recognising both the good and the bad.

You'll eventually come to a balance that feels right & true. Give yourself time: a year isn't long enough to complete the grieving process for a parent.

Writing stuff down often helps. You could do it on here if you want it to be a conversation, though AIBU probably wouldn't be the best board for it.