To not know what to try next ?

[Tired89]

I split up with my ex husband around a year ago. In the last seven months my DD 6 has really struggled with sleeping.
She will go to bed at my home and drifts off to sleep but roughly after 2-5 hours of sleep she's awake again, she will then only settle back to sleep if she's with me and often climbs into bed.
I've tried to put her back but then there is a meltdown and I've already been signed off work with exhaustion once due to this and really can't do it again.
This has been going on for seven months now and it's exhausting. The relationship with her dad and his new partner hasn't been great and I appreciate this has probably made her unsettled.
As a result she now only stays with him one night a week in order to keep her routine consistent with me.
Her routine is Sports/ homework after school then a little downtime and her dinner,shower and then bed and story by 8 pm .
No TV 1 hour before bed , no tablet 1 hour before bed, sugar reserved for weekends or a small treat size bar of chocolate every few days. Not a lot of processed food . Lavender spray to help her relax and a little massage before bed,sports 3 times a week.
I've started a sleep diary as I've already been to the GP and been told it's just stress from the divorce but nearly a year on I'm not so sure.
Can anyone give me some advice on what else I can do or is there a medical professional who could shed some light on what could possibly be going on.
TIA

Just let her climb in with you, she’ll out grow it eventually, she probably just needs some extra reassurance at the moment.

I think it’s a waiting game. My daughter was always a terrible sleeper from baby until about age 8. It was exhausting. She still has moments of ‘I can’t sleep’ and I say go back to bed and stare at the wall or read a book (she’s 12). I know it’s exhausting but eventually it will stop. Would you consider just cosleeping with her for awhile, maybe then she won’t wake up.

Do you need her to go back to her bed? My 9 yr old often gets into bed with me in the middle of the night. Most of the time it doesn’t even wake me. Would it be easier and less exhausting for you both if she just climbs into bed with you when she wakes in the night and spends the rest of the night in with you?

Just let her sleep with you. I did when my dad left.

Just go with it, DD was the same and eventually grew out of it. She needs the comfort.

If you let her stay in your bed does she just go back to sleep? Our 9 year old is often in our bed in the morning, I’m usually not aware of her arriving.Just do whatever gets you all the most sleep. She needs to feel safe amongst the disruption.

Hi all thanks for responses once she's awake she does get in with me but ideally after nearly a year I would like not to have to sleep with a snoring wiggly worm who keeps me up half the night 🙄😂
Im just wondering if there was anything else I could do so she slept for a little longer . If she wakes up and I'm busy doing jobs etc she won't go to bed on her own which means on some evenings I'm in bed at 9 . Hardly ideal ,so really just wondered about tips so she would sleep even for a few more hours independently even if she got in with me eventually?

Isn’t 8pm bedtime for a 6 year old quite late?

She's seven in a few weeks. She is in bed between 7/7.30 but on average I would say shes not asleep until around 8.

@Patchworksack yes as soon as she's near me she's straight back to sleep

Buy a bigger bed.
Been there, worn the t shirt. She will gradually grow out of it but right now she needs her mums bed.

Could you get her a bed in your bedroom so you don't have to deal with being kicked and snored at all night? Maybe a put up bed she can climb into when she wants to? I think in this scenario and for your health it's worth a try.

Sadly my bedroom isn't big enough for another bed.