To wonder what I am doing wrong

[HateMarzipan]

So my 3 year old has become quite challenging recently, he throws tantrums when he cannot get his own way and everything seems difficult, if he doesn't get his own way he starts throwing things and biting things really angrily. I have always just tried to ignore but last night I had had enough, I shouted as he was hurting his 6 year old sister because she wouldn't sit in the place he wanted her to sit. He came at me trying to hit me and bite me so I just stuck my hand on his head so he couldn't get near me. I feel guilty for shouting as I have never done it before and my daughter ran upstairs as she said I scared her, I explained to her that her brother was really naughty and sometimes shouting is necessary.

What I am I doing wrong? I am so fed up!

You have a child who's challenging at the moment. Everyone looses their cool sometimes.

I found the standard parenting just didn't work with my eldest DD. Reading the book 123 Magic and using techniques from there helped. It's specifically for more challenging parenting.

DD has since been diagnosis ASD and ADHD which explains my difficulties. It's not just for neuro diverse children though.

I just feel like I walk on egg shells with him, waiting for the next disagreement with his sister over something ridiculous. He had a tantrum the other day because we couldn't go on an aeroplane, I get so exhausted with it I thought booking a flight would be the easy option then to listen to him!