To hand my notice in today..

[MrsElordi]

I'm at work today and I absolutely hate the job. It's just not for me, I dread it the night before I'm due in. I've got young kids and thinking about just being a SAHM for a while. I only do a few days a week but spend my days off thinking about it. I've only been there 6 months, I don't know what's worse.. staying in this job or having no wage at all. I can afford to be at home it's just spare money for myself I work for really.. most of it gets saved.

Do I hand my notice in today or give it a bit more chance?

Quit. Life is too short to be miserable at work

Oh my goodness. Get that notice straight in! Life is definitely too short.

If you can afford it, do it.

What is it you do?

Definitely quit if you hate it and can afford to not work for a while. Life is too short x

I was in the same position as you a year ago. I handed my notice in. I haven't worked since, and am enjoying my freedom (have had a few wobbles but husband reminds me I did the right thing). I think if you're not desperate for the money, don't stay in a job you hate.

@ReadingSoManyThreads what made you decide to hand your notice in, and what did you tell your employer? Have you missed having "your own" money as opposed to "family" money. I'm so wobbly about doing it and feel sick at the thought but then I've felt sick every night before going into this place for 6 months!

You really don't have to stay OP, especially if it is causing this much anxiety - no job is worth that. I would quit, tell them you want to spend more time with your children.
Then maybe take a month or two and think about what you want, or keep an eye out for something else.

Definitely quit. I stayed in a job far too long for different reasons (misplaced loyalty to the company owner). I was so unhappy. Eventually, I sat down with DH, worked out our finances, and decided that I could take 2 years out if necessary and we'd still be able to live. A year later I'd retrained and have now been doing a job I love for 10 years - it also fits around family life - win win

It is easier to find a new job while you have a job, so that is something to consider. However, if you don't think.you can find the energy to look for something new while working this one, then you may have to jump first.

Only 6 months though ... you may only just be getting settled, depending on the role. I tell new starters that if they do anything useful in the first 3 months they are doing well!

I'd hand your notice in if I was in your position.

You don’t have to tell them anything, other than that you’re resigning. If you can afford to be at home for a while, you have time to look for something that suits you better.

Do you work in a supermarket?

You're lucky you have the choice.

Especially if you dread going in.

I'd start looking for another job if I were in your shoes. It's easier to get one if you are still in work, and will help to take your mind off the problems with this job. I come from experience of a period of having no money of my own and depending on DH, and frankly I hated it. I felt sort of diminished, and I think also it changed things between us: not unreasonably, DH expected that I would do the bulk of stuff around the house as well as general family admin, but I felt I hadn't given up work to become his secretary/maidservant.

Op, you can afford to quit so hand your notice in.
This would give you the time and the headspace to look for another job.

I'd job hunt first. Easier to get a job when you are in a job and you never know what could happen to DHs job.

I would absolutely quit in your position. If money is not an issue then you don't need to be in a job to find another job.

‘tell them you want to spend more time with your children. ‘

Please don’t ‘blame’ being a mother when you hand in your notice. Some of us have campaigned for decades to stop the automatic prejudice against people with children.

How used are you to having your own income? It's hard to not have your own money coming in even if your DH is generous with his own/family money.

Look for another job so you have identity away from home and so you don't fall behind in your industry.

Have you discussed with your partner? What happens if he comes home and says he cant stand his job and meeds to quit?

I'd hang on and look for a new job because leaving without one would make me anxious.

What exactly is it about this job that isnt right?

Sometimes it's the opposite - immediate availability for interview (and to start work) can definitely go in your favour as a candidate, and I've found in the past that being free to properly look for work/meet recruiters/submit applications gives me more motivation to do so.

I’m so close to doing the same thing. My stress and anxiety are at an all time high and I can never switch it off. Planning on doing it by the end of the week. Life is too short for something to be all-consuming in your life in a negative way.

Before you make any decision read the other current thread ‘living rent free in my house’

If you are in a position to manage without then yes absolutely. Life is too short and it is clearly affecting you mentally and physically which is not healthy.