Wedding clothes dilemma

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My son got married 3 years ago. It was a very nice wedding and enjoyed by all.

My nephew is getting married this year and I am seriously considering wearing the same dress and jacket I wore at my son's wedding. Different shoes and bag.

YABU: You can't do that! It's skanky and everyone will judge you.

YANBU: Nobody will remember what you wore and even if they do, what's
wrong with a bit of recycling?

Ireland here! We had a spate of 11 weddings in 16 months. I had 2 dresses, mixed and matched some accessories. Fortunately, some of the weddings had no connection to each other.

DSIL got a lovely new dress for my wedding, she's petite and it is the nicest outfit I've ever seen her wear, quite distinctive in its simplicity and far nicer on her than her wedding dress was. I must have seen it on her at various occasions at least 15 times afterwards, all seasons of the year and she'll have worn it to at least as many occasions I haven't been at. She's getting quite the bang for her buck. She's worn it with stilettos and cowboy boots.

Definitely re-wear OP, it's great to own something you know you will be comfortable in.

I think my own Mum re-wore my wedding's outfit to my brother's micro wedding, she'd spent a lot of time looking for it and it was really flattering on her. It was a separates combo and she's worn the pieces individually too.

I'm desperately hoping that a dress in my wardrobe will fit for a destination wedding that we have to go to next year. Definitely don't want to be spending money on something I'll be trying to squeeze into my hand luggage!

Why would people who love you judge you for something inoffensive as wearing an expensive dress twice three years apart? Are they usually judgemental?

Your response to outfits is "actually, I'm lucky that the beautiful dress I bought for Tom's wedding can have another outing, it was so lovely to wear"

I think it would be different if one of your other children was marrying and you were re wearing it as a second time MOtheGroom/Bride but for a relative? Totally fine!!

I remarried 4 years ago and my Mum wore the same outfit to my first and second wedding 16 years apart!! Aside from immediate family all the guests were different. We were both impressed that it still fit her after all these years

Why would people who love you judge you for something inoffensive as wearing an expensive dress twice three years apart? Are they usually judgemental?

Well they're in-laws so obviously don't "love me" the same as blood rellies.

Yeah, they are judgemental about clothes in particular, and not just my clothes,
everybody's clothes. Even people they don't know on the telly. Someone walking down the street. "She's too fat to be wearing that"

And a memorable one "She wore the same clothes to go out for dinner that she'd been wearing all day!" A jumper and trousers. To a pub. That wasn't me, thankfully.

So yeah. Very judgy. Sorted now though. I'm wearing the frock.

Good for you! Have a lovely day out.

Ha. I'm not a dress person. I've worn my one fancy dress for my brother's wedding, my OWN wedding, several friends' and am planning to get it out for my sister's later this year.

Nobody is going to notice OP

I wouldn't as it's the same people. I could remember exactly what you wore

I wouldn't as it's the same people. I could remember exactly what you wore

OK so that's interesting. I know some people will remember the dress.
What I'm asking is will it matter and why?

So? Would you judge? That's the question.

Why is there a rule (in your mind) that an expensive formal outfit cannot be reworn 3 years later?

I would do this without a second thought, but I'm not bothered by what I wear or notice other people's clothes much. Only thing to consider is the photos- if your family is as judgmental about people's clothes as you say, they'll definitely notice the same dress and likely comment on it.

@RuthW genuinely curious as to why you would care ?