Local lunatic thinks I stole someone’s parcel.

[TheLightSideOfTheMoon]

I just got tagged in the FB group for my area.

Someone had a parcel delivered to the wrong address and it was signed by someone with my surname.

A surname which is amongst the top 200 surnames used in England and Wales (I just checked).

Post basically tags me saying that I have the same name so might know something about it.

I do not. I also don’t wish to be included in a post about stolen mail.

I messaged asking them to untag me. They tag me AGAIN saying, “thanks for checking…” and telling me I can untag myself.

I have untagged myself, but my name is still there - just now it’s not blue and clicky.

AIBU?

Why not just message and ask if I’ve seen it? Why single me out in a group of over 500 members? It makes me look shady AF.

I’ve reported the posts but they’re still there.

Gahhh!

Touch paranoid there OP, I wouldn’t think anything of it at all. In fact it would be the most boring forgettable thing online that day.

I'm not really sure where the "lunatic" or the "thinks I stole someone's parcel" comes into it.

Errrm I agree with the previous posters.

They've thanked you for checking and that's that.

Where does the 'lunatic' come into it?

...no one will think anything of it, is there history here?

I don't see the issue. No-one has accused you of stealing it.

Some random has signed because a parcel was shoved at them and they didn't look at the label (yes, I've been that signer, but fortunately realised after I shut the door that it was for my neighbour, and took it round).

Someone tagged you because they thought you might have done the same. That's all.

There was a prev thread which stated that as a rule the first response to any post was the definitive one. This trend has continues

It's very common that FB groups have rules about not DM'ing people unsolicited, or at all in fact so that may be why they tagged you (or simply they have no idea that tagging is irritating).

Just reply and say it's a common name and you're sorry you can't help. Or ignore it completely.

You can change your Facebook settings so that any ‘tags’ must be approved by you before being posted. I did this because I was fed up with a friend constantly tagging me in photos.

Surely you just say ‘no idea, sorry’.

FWIW don’t go around saying lunatic, it’s really not very nice.

Do you check under the bed before going to sleep?, calm down seriously

Bizarre over-reaction.

And please don’t call people ‘lunatics’ (perhaps google the etymology of the word).

Come off FB, you'd probably be much happier, 'ignorance is bliss' and all that.
I don't think you are being paranoid, I wouldn't be happy either, and I suspect plenty wouldn't be happy if they found themselves in a similar predicament.
However you've responded and made it clear it's nothing to do with you, so try and forget about. Easier said than done I know

You are bring overly dramatic.

Someone is looking for their parcel.

Couriers often sign using common surnames.

All you have to do is say you haven't got it also.

You also have given permission to be tagged. Change your setting if it's a problem.

Who said it was stolen mail ? Things get delivered to the wrong house all the time in our village, people don't tend to jump straight to 'its been nicked' without checking if anyone has seen it first ?

YABU. On my local Facebook group people will often tag someone with the same surname to be helpful - if it's not them it's sometimes a family member. Can be lost things, misdelivered mail, etc etc. Never occurred to me someone might be offended!

You haven't been accused of stealing, a parcel has been incorrectly delivered locally to someone with your surname so someone tagged you to ask if you can help. You can’t, end of story. You are acting strange and sound really unpleasant calling this person a lunatic for doing a perfectly normal thing!

😅 I can understand your annoyance OP. When I first moved into my new house a neighbour called asking if I'd taken in her parcel - I hadn't. She had the 'left at your neighbour' card with my address on. Even though I knew I hadn't I felt like she thought I was lying. Awkward.

I don't think FB is for you

They aren't accusing you of stealing mail

Parcels get delivered to the wrong place all the time

Someone thought you might know so tagged you

Instead of replying publically so everyone could see that you said "not me. Sorry". You:
Googled your surname to see how common it is
Messaged them to say it wasn't you and therefore kept it private
Reported the post to FB

You're the problem here

I came on ready to sympathise because local Facebook groups can be weird at times but actually on reading your post it is clear that nobody thinks you have stolen a parcel. They were just asking as you have the same surname as whoever signed for it. It wasn’t you and they appreciate your response. Non event.

No, that's normally just what people say when they don't like the answers.

The reason the first post here is the definitive one is because it's a complete non-problem.

Um... OK.