When I first met DH, we all got along so well. My in-laws then emigrated and almost instantly, all they cared about was their new life abroad. About a year after emigrating, my DH’s grandfather’s health declined. My inlaws couldn’t be bothered to come back when he was on his death bed, they never really liked him and always just spoke about getting their hands on his inheritance. At the same time the grandfather gifted me a family heirloom ring to pass on to our DD when she was old enough. My DH’s mum (so grandfather’s DiL, not his daughter) was seething. Saying she wanted to be the one to distribute the jewellery as it was all being left to her. She was absolutely vile about the whole situation, snarling at me I know what he did etc. I never asked for the ring, he wanted me to have it. They also left DH’s brother who had a mental health breakdown and spent hundreds of thousands of pounds on a gambling addiction, when he needed them most. At the time I tried to reach out to BiL to help and through my in-laws they passed on a message from him saying “don’t contact him again.” They hurt me so much. It causes so many arguments with DH as I just wish he stood up to them. DH hates confrontation and I guess they are his parents ultimately. He has promised though going forward to put me and the kids first. AIBU that I now despise them?