I live with my mother and her albanian husband who came over a year ago. He has only had 1 job in that time for about 4 months. His family back home live to a reasonable standard. They certainly don't go without. He left his mum (in her 60s), young son who is almost 10 and his sister. They all live together. My mum never talks to his family on the phone or online (mainly because of langauge barrier) but has been to see them on trips over there about 6 times.
My mums husband must tell my mum that his family is having money troubles and getting groceries etc on the tab which of course my mother feels terrible at and sends them £200 every few weeks. I'm not quite sure I don't believe her husband and his family are legit. I think all he wants is her money and a life over here. My mum has paid for all his flights back home, a car, gives him spending money for throughout the week, paid for his uk driving lessons etc and then is sending them money over. she knows i feel doubtful about their situation. i give her a lot of my wage for board/lodgings.
so today, really strangely, my mother and her husband were going to town early. very unusual for them when they can get everything in the village. i asked my mum is she was going to send them (her il's) some money over. she swore no she wasn't as she didn't have any money. all she has is the cash i gave her which has to go to pay her visa as last month she drew £500 on the visa to send to them as she had no money of her own otherwise. I have just got home now and found the western union slip to say that £100 was sent today and i'm really angry. first because she lied to me and second because i gave her that money towards paying off her visa and to pay our house bills. i am struggling to save for a deposit for my own home but still don't mind contributing to this house but really when she is sending my hard earned cash over there I get so mad! am i being unreasonable?