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Is this bad? (relationship related)

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Powerofpurple · 28/01/2024 22:49

Myself and my DP (not married as neither of us wanted to be) have a 5 year old son and we have a joint mortgage also.

However, I don’t really think we’ll be together once our DS is in his late teens, possibly before. But we don’t argue/have a bad atmosphere in the house. We literally just do the day to day tasks, go to work, take our son to clubs, parties and days out at the weekends. We all eat together. We still sleep in the same bed and have sex maybe once or twice a month, at the most.
But I just don’t think we are well matched. We are basically doing what you shouldn’t do and staying together for the child’s sake. But we’re not at each other’s throats all the time or anything like that.

We have very different interests and ways of looking at life, situations. But we respect each other and both support one another as best we can although it can be hard because our communication is sometimes not totally aligned.

Financially we also couldn’t cope being apart and living separately.

Just wondering if anyone else is in the same or similar boat as this?

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fairo · 29/01/2024 06:07

How is the house legally registered?

cordeliachaseatemyhandbag · 29/01/2024 06:51

Sounds better than most marriages I know of!

Ikeawarrior · 29/01/2024 06:56

In my experience, it caught up with us eventually. Our marriage limped on for four years before it ended last year. I would leave or at least make plans to leave. If you've noticed this issue with your relationship then your DP probably has too. And while you may be happy to stay, you cannot control what he does. What happens when he finds someone else for example? (As what happened with me).

Powerofpurple · 29/01/2024 07:11

@fairo

Its legally registered in both our names.

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