Have you ever fancied someone you find unattractive?

[Chipsandcheese1234]

Contrary to my other thread.
It's not that I go for male models by any means, really not bothered if a guy is 'plain'.
However there was a guy recently I saw a few times, sometimes when I saw him I really didn't think he was good looking at all.
However on other occasions I thought he was ok. Then when I saw him again I'd change my mind and think yep not attractive at all. However something about him drew me in.

I've certainly found someone's personality and interests have completely overridden their physical unattractiveness.

oh 100%

One of my ex’s. I first met him in a pub where he was trying to dance with me and I was cringing as I didn’t find him physically attractive at all. Somehow we got talking and I was drawn in by his personality and over the time we spoke, I became attracted to him physically because I was attracted to him mentally if that makes any sense? That’s why I will never believe the ‘love at first sight’ mentality because every person I’ve been with has always won me over on personality rather than looks.

Yes this has happened to me a couple of times. Not anyone I’ve found actively unattractive as such but definitely nothing special / not my type etc, someone I wouldn’t look at and didn’t think anything of upon first meeting. However personality has then made me very attracted to them and they then become physically attractive as well in a way.

My ex from 40 years ago was objectively, um, not good looking. But he was funny, sexy, interesting and a brilliant lover. He died last year after a long and happy life. I have very happy memories.

Yes, I'm much more attracted to personality than looks, so I can be meh about physically attractive people but very attracted to less good looking people

From experience, the people I have met who I thought 'phwaor' about from day one, ended up being vacuous assholes.
Personality wins me over, every time.

Good-looking people can be repulsive, and the conventionally ‘ugly’ can be enormously attractive.

Yes. absolutely. Without ever speaking to them to judge personality.

I once saw this guy, who was, shall we say, not blessed in the looks department, and as soon as I saw him I thought, I'm going to sleep with you. And a week later, I did.

It was the cheeky look on his face when we caught sight of each other at exactly the same time. It just screamed, this guy is fun! to me.

I have always hated the ‘handsome’ sporty types as they’re too up their own jacksies. Give me a gorgeously caring, sensitive, lover anytime.

100% Personality, humour and intelligence is key for me. Looks are superficial.

I married him, still together 20years later.

I've known handsome sporty types who are not at all up their arses and who are deeply sensitive 🙄

You have them then 😁

My DH wasn't my type at all. Nothing special looks wise, quite a bit older etc.
But as I got to know him, realised we got along like a house on fire, and then that we had crazy chemistry, and before
I knew it i found him the sexiest man ever! Still do almost 20 years later.

Lee Mack.

Although he's not unattractive. But not someone I'd expect to fancy if that makes sense?

It's his quick wit. And although he's often acting like he's an arsehole I always get the impression he's a decent guy.

I generally only find men really attractive physically after I get to know them.

recognizing that someone meets societies recognized definition of handsome or beautiful isn’t really the same as finding that person attractive. You could just as easily identify that a painting or a sculpture meets the criteria.

Jeremy Allen White

Ugly hot ❤️

Yes. An ex boyfriend. He just had such an aura of gravitas and I don't what else, but other women felt the same!

I go for looks than personality. Has to be sexual chemistry and won't get it if don't fancy them 🤷‍♀️

My ex - thought he looked a bit like a werewolf when I first saw him, later found him very attractive!

Yes. My last boyfriend.
The connection was amazing and I couldn't get enough of him.
He wasn't just unattractive he was quite ugly to the point I was embarrassed to introduce him to family and friends.

I know I sound awful and shallow.