Dp driving me crazy

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I posted a thread ago about feeling like my ds (19 months) hated me he preferred his daddy for everything, now it’s turned im becoming his favourite which dp cannot stand, every time ds hurts himself he cries to come to me which im loving but now dp has puck up on this he’s deliberately lifting ds before he gets to me and stopping him coming over. I know it’s something so small but it’s really driving me mad! He was the favourite for months and now it’s finally my turn I feel as though he’s trying his hardest to make sure it doesn’t go that way. AIBU to be so annoyed by this

I mean this kindly op but this is very childish. You are both parents and when your child is upset your natural instincts are to provide comfort, it is not a competition who gets there first.

Children will naturally turn a parent to provide what need they have at a particular time and you will likely find as they get older you will both fall into a set role. For example my DH has always been the playful 1, the 1 they seek out for laughs etc whereas I am the 1 for advice and when things go tits up! Both of us are able to provide emotional comfort equally which is the main thing. As long as your child knows they have 2 parents who love them isn't that what counts?

You both sound immature. It’s not a competition. Your child’s parental preference will ebb and flow between you both as they grow and the years go by. This is totally natural.

No I completely understand children switch preferences so I was fine when it was dp but now ds isn’t wanting him to comfort him so when he grabs him and holds him back it’s just causing more stress and he cries harder and longer and that’s the part that’s driving me mad is that he’s causing ds to be more stressed just to try and keep himself as the favourite parent