Annoyed at other parents taking mick

[mickey54]

Would you be cross. Our DS is 14 he went to a friends house a couple of miles away, With one other friend from where we live. one parent from the town gave them all a lift over. A lady I know well. Ds friend said his parents would give them a lift back. We told him he couldn’t go unless could get home as we were in the pub having a couple of drinks this was 630pm. Fast forward the end of the night his parents then say they can’t pick them up. I’m so cross but I think maybe he never asked in first place. Anyway we decide first time ever to book an Uber. Which he gets in said friend to our house, he walked back to his house. Then my son tells me when he got home his friend showed him text from his dad saying you will have to get DS parents to pay for taxi . I am bloody furious the expectation of it and no offer of any money but to tell their child we have to pay. AIBU I’m so mad. AIBU ???

I’m guessing they were thinking, well we dropped off, they can collect.

I would imagine he never asked his parents. When he asked his parents said dream on I dropped you there, get ds's parents to bring you back, and when the parents heard you were drinking said well get them to sort a taxi so.

I would have discussed this with the other parents beforehand.

I mean this is exactly what most people would think.

I know op you wanted a nice evening down the pub but when you have kids - you have to know that if someone's having your child for a set period, then it's kinda taking the micky to expect them to drop them off too.

My reading is that A and B went to visit C.

C's parent (or another totally separate person, not sure) picked them up.
B's parent was meant to bring them home but decided not to.
A's parent is the OP, had only given permission if A was getting a lift home.
Because B's parents dropped out, A organised a taxi, which B's parents said Op would have to pay for.

I'd be a bit miffed too.

@Sunnydays0101 no his parents didn’t take them another parent did !

@Lovingitallnow no his parents didn’t take them another parent did !

@Merryoldgoat yes possibly but at 14 old enough to sort themselves ? Or maybe not !

@TeenDivided exactly spot on ! Yes I feel miffed and it’s not the money it’s the principle.

Seriously just let it go. They probably haven't got the cash

Users are expensive use a mini cab next time

@namechangnancy no this is completely wrong. They went to another friends house. Said friends parents did Nothing. We weren’t having an evening down pub with someone looking after our son. We were having 2 drinks @ 630!!!

At 14 my mum would’ve wanted to know how I was getting home and I’d be the same when my son is 14.

Not for a friend who lives 2 roads away but if it was such that a lift is needed I’d definitely want to be confirming arrangements myself.

@Merryoldgoat well we’ve told him he’s not doing that again unless we fetch him. So lesson learnt.

If transport falls through/doesn’t materialise then the passenger pays for it themselves. We don’t have a car, if a lift falls through the DC gets a taxi and pays for it

@New2024 well that’s fine and I have no problem but the expectation from the other parents we pay for it for their son.

Your ds needed to get home, you ordered an uber and he's home safely.

Next time, if you mind about the money, collect him yourself, organise the transport for him or tell your ds he needs to pay for the uber himself.

Teens invariably need collecting. I find the best approach is just not to drink.

Oh yes, that is a bit off