to object to an old woman calling dd a 'poor little thing'????????????

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i don't know if she was referring to a) the fact that i had taken my 2 year old out for a breath of fresh air in such appalling weather or b) the fact that she was on reins

But i'm pissed off either way, i mean dd was bundled up in many layers including hat/coat and waterproof mac and wellies. We're outdoorsy types and both start climbing the walls if we stay in all bloody day. what am i supposed to do? Playgroup is cancelled because it's holy week and i hadn't been organised enough to arrange any other activities for her. if i waited for the weather to improve i'd be waiting an extremely long time.

And as for the reins - well i know lots of people dont have to use them because their toddlers do as they're told and don't run in the road or try to play chicken with oncoming traffic. But seriously, in her case it's the difference between life and death. And what's so cruel about wanting dd to stay alive ffs?

Chill dude.

Well, why didn't you ask her what she meant? I would have!

Do you live in the arctic?

she may have just been bonkers, don't stress!

Take no notice.

You know your DD is not a poor little thing, so why worry?

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no. britain. i know it's not a big deal but it bothered me at the time.

it probably would have pissed me off to, but old people say weird things. Don't stress over it.

As long as you know she not a 'poor little thing' who cares. old people are barmy sometimes.

thanks. sometimes mumsnet is like my sane inner voice

She didn't know that you had chosen to go out in the rain. She probably saw dd all wet and just felt for her. I do that too. On the way to swimming earlier we drove past a lady pushing a buggy. The boy had no gloves on and I thought 'poor boy'. He was fine, sucking a lolly and happy.

no, we'd literally just stepped out the front door when we passed her, so we hadn't had time to get soggy.

just chill a bit - you might have been the only person she was likely to speak to all day, may be it was her 'conversation opener'.

i know that older people can be a bit of a challenge to chat to, but sometimes they are just a bit lonely!!

It could just be a figure of speech. My mum always says poor wee thing - as a term of endearment.

Maybe, unbeknownst to you dd was pulling a particularly pathetic face and looked all wet and soggy. i wouldn't take it as a comment on your parenting ability.

She didn't know what else to say...they always advised me that my child needed a hat. You had that base covered.

I agree that it may have been a figure of speech too and would definately not take offence to it. I prob say poor lil thing to dd about various things throughout the day and its not ment literally! Just to make a fuss of her or a joke to make her smile. I bet she didnt mean much by it. God if I said that to someones little en I would never mean to offend!