To not give DH a lie in?

[Noliein]

Feels a bit mean in some ways. Currently on maternity leave with 6 month old who generally wakes once or twice a night. I’m aware this is by no means a ‘bad’ sleeper but the problem is she tends to take ages to go back to sleep once awake (I think hope she’s finally going now and she’s been awake since 4.)

So - AIBU to want DH to be the one to get up with older child at around 7. I don’t think I am and to be fair he hasn’t complained but wondering if I am being unreasonable.

Not really enough info to go on... Did he help during the night? Does he do his fair share? Work yesterday/today?

Getting up at 7 is a completely reasonable time if he hasn’t been up in the night and went to bed at a reasonable time.

One of the best healthy lifestyle changes I ever made was moving to going to bed and getting up at the same time every day regardless of weekends etc. Late nights and late mornings on weekends seriously screw with your circadian rhythms. Bad for adults, terrrrrible for children.

not enough info lol.

No, he doesn’t generally help in the night. He works standard Monday to Friday.

@badwolf82 well, I wouldn’t personally care what time he got up but i just really value a bit of time to sleep in in the mornings after doing a 12-1 and a 4-530 ‘shift.’

Doesn't sound unreasonable at all.

🤣 Well in that case it sounds a fair request that he gets up at 7am!

Of course he should get up.

YANBU. Sleep is a necessity, not a luxury. You need it as much as anyone else.

It depends on the situation I think. When I was on mat leave (and still now that I'm back to work), unless it's a really rubbish night being woken up loads, I let my husband sleep one day and I sleep the other during weekends. A "lie-in" in our house is 7am-ish though, when both kids are awake. He wakes up at 5 every day for work, when I usually get up at 6ish and he does the evening feeds when I go to sleep early, so he needs a 8h night once in a while as much as I do.

You need the lie in more. It's fine to wake up at 7am every day. You can go to bed at a reasonable time and get sufficient sleep. I wake up around then most days and it's much easier than when I was juggling night wakes with the kids. Plus I would have struggled going back to sleep at 5.30 if I knew I had to get up at 7.

If DH is staying fast asleep through the night then surely he’s getting a good deal.