To buy the PS5 a month after Christmas

[Blendedperfectly24]

Ok so I have a 10 year old DD she is not spoilt in behaviour actually the opposite and is very very well behaved.
she has very complex health ( 24 hour care - month to hospital stays / home IV pumps ) she has always struggled with friendships and it’s difficult because she can’t go on “ play dates without me “
recently she bonded with a girl she met years ago at the hospital, she is on the same medical regime as DD. They have become each others person and are so good together.
I don’t tend to spoil her all year around but I do go a bit over board for Xmas and her birthday ( same week )
this year she originally wanted a ps5 but then became unsure, and when we looked etc she decided she wanted a graphics tablet instead as she is very good at art and wanted to expand so that is what she got as well as lots of other smaller bits.
i tripled checked about the ps5 and she just wasn’t interested.
She had however never seen a ps5 before or played one.
she has finally because of her friends mum is trained in care due to similar needs been able to attend a friends house for visits etc
they have a ps5 and a few other friends who go over to her friends house at the Same who she has now made friends with also have one so they play with each other from their own houses etc
she played it over her friends house and really enjoyed it.
I am not well off but also not living month to month.
she has begged today offered to do all the housework for a month 🤣 for me to get her a ps5. She says it wilL help stay Included because in periods of isolation she can continue to be apart of their friendship group and play with them as that’s what they do together.

I have always been fairly strict at not giving her everything she wants straight away.
her birthday is so close to Xmas though so not like it would make a diff by me saying well your birthday is still to come 🙈

i should just buy the thing shouldn’t I 🤣
it’s just such a big gift !

She might actually prefer a Switch the newer OLED ones but I suppose you'd need to find someone who has one she can test out

If not yes get her a PS5 it's loads of fun and she can play online games with friends

Or get her both eventually as they have different types of games

My DS started out with a Nintendo DS then an Xbox age 10, then PS3 then PS4, had to upgrade to PS5 to play newer games and now also a switch

He's started to play on Nintendo DS again

It works well for him as downtime

I’d buy it. I bought my son his PS5 in a completely random month, not near Christmas or his birthday. He desperately wanted one for Christmas but it was when they were completely unavailable, I tried at every release there was to get one but was never one of the people to get through to the checkout page! A friend of mine was also trying and once he got one of his own, he kept trying for me and got one! So I bought it off him and gifted it to my son after school, he was absolutely overjoyed.

He’s a good kid and because of his disability and other difficulties he spends a lot of time socialising on it, it’s been fantastic for him. It sounds like your dd would benefit in the same way, I say go for it.

I would buy it for her in a heartbeat as long as you can afford it ok.

I would 100% do it if you can afford it.

Yes, if you can afford it buy it for her. She has given good reasons why she is asking for it, has offered to work for it (but I would probably only ask her to work for a much shorter period of time) and you have said she is very well behaved. Your daughter has been dealt a tough hand with her health and if you can help her maintain friendships during isolation (and you can afford the PS5) you should buy it merrily and without any hesitation!

If you can afford it do it! She's coping with more than she should with her health and if this would make things better for her I'd do it.

In this situation I would buy her one and clearly from your post you already know you are going to get her one. Hope she enjoys it

I would. She sounds like a lovely kid who understands that stuff costs money, but would appreciate being in contact with her friends.

I'd buy her it. It'll be invaluable keeping her in touch with her friends. Sometimes it's nice to treat kids to a lovely present 'Just because' and frankly, it sounds like she deserves it!

I'd look at a Switch for next Christmas too. It's a different gaming experience that's a lot of fun.

Buy it. Yes it's a big thing but it will allow her to socialise & that's priceless.

Your post instantly made me think of this article -

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/disability-47064773

Edited to add - get an extra controller & you can both play together. Things like minecraft are perfect family games.

Op If you can afford to then do it.
I've done the same thing. Online gaming can be a complete blessing!

Christmas 2019 DS asked for Xbox, I said No, partly i thought he was too young and knowing the next generation was due out.

I didn't predict Covid or the draconian restrictions that meant kids couldn't even play together outside or how useless kids are at chatting on the phone.
By April 2020, birthday had passed, restrictions had been in place 5 weeks no end in sight, and I purchased an Xbox for DS just because I couldn't cope seeing his sad face. It was fantastic to hear him chat to pals while Minecrafting!

If you can afford to do it, do it. Does she have any birthday/ Christmas money to contribute?

Yes get it. It sounds like this would be of great benefit to her.

We bought a PS5 for my DH as we couldn’t justify spending the money on 1 dc and not getting the others something similar, so all the dcs get to use DHs and it saved us forking out a fortune.

Go for it OP!

You sound like such a sweet mum

But that's no good if all her friends are on PS5s and socialising on headsets is it?

I'd absolutely buy her one OP

thank you
it’s very hard because you tend to go in to over compensate mode when they are poorly, but it’s a difficult boundary because you also want to teach them raise them well.
I will get it for her though as I could see she was desperate
( I won’t make her do the housework for s month either 🤣)

I'm giving you the permission you seem to be seeking to treat your daughter!

Apart from the fact you can treat your kids whenever you want to, your DD has been dealt a crappy hand, I'd do anything that would make it better/easier for her. This is a way of keeping in touch with friends. I wouldn't hesitate.

@Walking2024now24days i totally get what you mean but she’s been poorly since birth and it’s totally crap trust me. I do a lot to make sure that she has s fulfilled life and we make the most of our free time.
the issue with doing everything and getting them what they want because of their health is that it has the same effect than on those healthy kids. It’s really hard but I can’t say yes to everything even though I love to see her happy and make her feel better but realistically she is a child who has to be taught at the Dane time.

Could you get some games you could play together? Make it a family gift rather than just for her if that makes you feel better

If you can afford it, I don’t see the point in withholding something just to make a point of it. I don’t think giving kids things necessarily means that they’ll be spoiled or badly behaved.

@Blendedperfectly24

to ME it's not about the PS5, it's about this...

She says it wilL help stay Included because in periods of isolation she can continue to be apart of their friendship group and play with them as that’s what they do together

in MY opinion it's about her maintaining a friendship group that she can't, as most kids can, through school, groups, neighbours etc.

She says it wilL help stay Included because in periods of isolation she can continue to be apart of their friendship group and play with them as that’s what they do together. This is it for me too, I would do it in a heartbeat for this reason. You're not giving in to a meaningless demand you helping her have friends and feel less isolated when she's stuck in hospital. My chronic illness doesn't limit me as much as your daughters, but from experience Id say it feels realy good to get to do something everyone else is getting to do for a change. It feels good to do little normal things that healthy people take for granted.

I know quite a few chronically ill people who get huge joy from the fact they can game with friends even when housebound/bed bound. It's a sensible thing to get her and I am so pleased she has found a friend whose house she can go to

Do it! It will transform her social life and give her more opportunities to connect with her friends who are in a similar situation to her. My DS games for hours with his friends and, whilst they're mainly gaming, they chat about all sorts of things.

Totally it's being able to play and maintain friendships. That's the important bit.
I didn't realise until lockdown how much kids need other kids and how much they communicate through play.
It might also help with school friends if they are also on PS5.

Op if you can afford it do it. Christmas birthdays are pants too.