Was she unreasonable to leave daughter

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will try not to drip feed 🙈
DD at the time 9 let’s call her Molly, was in hospital for a long period of time, she has been very poorly.
she has a school friend who we will call Sarah who’s mum messaged me asking that Sarah would like to see Molly.
they are not what you call super close and very rarely see each other out of school.
I did think it would be nice for Molly to see a school friend as at this point she had been so isolated. We arranged for them to come after school. Molly was super excited and I took her for a little walk to meet them at the car. Girls were excited to see each other but the mum never got out of car she said, I will what’s app you when I’m coming to pick her up and off she went.
this was at 3.45 pm - I messaged her regarding food at about 5 and to ask when she was coming back
she collected her from the hospital at 7.30pm.
AIBU that she did this for babysitting 🤣🙈

none of our other friends leave the kids ? They come see her together.

What an extremely odd and unreasonable thing for her to do.
I do hope your daughter will be home soon xx

Yes I think that was strange. She left her daughter for hours with your poorly daughter for a playdate at the hospital which I find quite bizarre. Hospital visits are usually about an hour or so (and obviously sometimes wards have rules about this), so this must have been quite tiring for your DD. I hope they had fun together and your DD will be home soon

Very unreasonable of her, sounds like she just wanted to go off shopping or whatever! It’s a really odd and cheeky thing for the mother to do in a hospital. Did she even ask about visiting hours or rules?

I hope your dd is better and home soon.

I wouldn’t particularly expect Sarah’s parent to stay with her 9-year-old for a visit, but I also wouldn’t expect the visit to go on for nearly four hours until 7.30pm!! That’s mad. Fine to leave her child chatting with your DD for half an hour or something, but not without checking with you if that was OK, and DEFINITELY not for nearly four hours! That’s insane. She has no idea if your DD is even well enough to manage company for that long. And using the mother of a sick child for four hours of childcare, covering dinner time etc, is just beyond awful. Christ

If anything, she should have asked you if YOU wanted a break for an hour, and taken you off for a coffee while the girls were entertaining each other. Or even offered to stay with the girls for you while you stretched your legs or nipped to the shop to something.

What a cheek. Next time she's looking for free childcare for a few hours tell her to shove it where the sun don't shine

This is cheeky fuckery in the extreme.

Wow that is totally unreasonable. Like you don't have enough on your plate without looking after someone else's child !

Wow, she has a cheek.

I think that's unreasonable... And odd

Your poor daughter must have been exhausted.

She sounds like a thoughtless bellend

that's outrageous. If I were bringing my child to visit a friend in hospital, I'd be trying to find ways to make life easier for the other parent - asking what I can bring; offering to watch the kids while they took a break, if appropriate - rather than trapping them into doing me a favour. Her behaviour is astonishing. Honestly, I think it would be OK to call her out on this if you feel strong enough.