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Feeling guilty with own money.

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Staywildmoomchild · 26/01/2024 23:24

Keep this as short as possible,

after 5.5 years of utter crp i left my ex.. the usual happened after he had been on the randan he started his rubbish..but this time i got my essentials and left!* (And not looked back) in those years i hit rock bottom, isolated myself from pals and family.. I couldn’t even buy a new pair of jeans without being accused that they were for some other guy’s benefit… I’ve been away for a year paid off the debt i got myself into for him, Ive seen this bag that i would like but I’m not wanting to spend the money on myself.. not because it costs too much etc it’s almost like i feel guilty/ undeserving of buying myself it. It sounds pathetic but its not the first time ive seen anything and thought that’s nice but ended up with the same feelings (There was alot of controlling behaviour from my ex so im not sure if that’s maybe part of the reason i think this way)

do i just need to snap out of it and buy the bag!

OP posts:
mrsbyers · 26/01/2024 23:50

Buy the bag , you deserve it !

Naddd · 27/01/2024 00:23

Buy the bag

RobertaFirmino · 27/01/2024 01:28

You absolutely MUST buy the bag and I forbid you to keep it 'for best'. You deserve new things and you have every right to spend your own money on yourself.

Nevermind31 · 27/01/2024 01:48

Buy the bag. See it as part of your therapy and healing process… of course, don’t go on mad spending sprees and into debt, but if you can afford it… BUY THE BAG and feel good every time you look at it. See it as your freedom present to self

TheSandgroper · 27/01/2024 02:03

A girl can never have too many handbags. I have said it very firmly for many a year.

Kitkatcatflap · 27/01/2024 03:22

BUY THE BAG. Wear it with pride, a bag/badge of honour. Use it as a shield to move into the future.

Good luck OP

junebirthdaygirl · 27/01/2024 04:09

It's good to be aware of what you are feeling and why. This is to do with his control. So feel that feeling and then realise you are now free to do what you want with your money. Buy the bag and enjoy using it. If you haven't had therapy it would help but actually buying the bag is a step in your healing journey as well.
Well done on getting out and getting financially stable. He has no more say in what you buy.

Northernsouloldies · 27/01/2024 04:14

You don't need to be guarded anymore about purchases or living life as you please. Enjoy your new bag and a new you.

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