To think DS nappy should have been changed.

[Mel2023]

DS (20 months) was on a half day at nursery yesterday. DH took him to nursery at 1pm. He says he last changed DS nappy about 12 after his bath. We use pull ups and nursery use a brand of nappy we’ve never heard of. They both look very different.

I picked DS up that evening at 6pm and changed him within 20 mins of getting home as I could see his nappy was full through his trousers. When I got him undressed I noticed it was the same pull up we’d sent him to nursery in. I understand everyone forgets at times, there’s a lot going on in the toddler room, lots of kids running round etc. It’s never happened before so I was going to write it off as a mistake and if it happened again then that would be different.

However, when DH dropped him off today he mentioned it (more in a “was it busy yesterday, we noticed DS wasn’t changed”). He then said we knew he hadn’t been unless they’d switched to pull ups (they hadn’t), when they acted non the wiser. DH is very non-confrontational so this would have been said in the most diplomatic way possible. He said the staff acted really offended and got defensive. This really bothers me. It’s not as if DS came home dry, he came home sopping wet in a very full nappy, the same nappy he’d been dropped off wearing almost 6 hours earlier. AIBU to be angry at the way this has been handled?

No I’d be really pissed off tbh.

6 hours in a nappy is far too long. Ask them what their protocol for changes is. Our nursery used to check the kids on kind of a rotation and update the app whenever they’d changed DS.

I'd go with your original plan of seeing if it happens again. It doesn't sound like their reaction was ideal, but unless you're going to change nursery I'm not sure there is any value in being angry/annoyed. Let it go, as you said, mistakes happen.

Also, if you didn't notice his nappy was wet for 20 minutes it may well be that he's moving towards potty training age when they will be dry for hours and then suddenly have a massive wee (like a potty trained child/adult would).

Yes I would not be happy. When I previously worked in a nursery there were clear set times in the day to do regular nappy changes for all children plus obviously if needed doing in between if poo / especially wet and noticed and done as soon as noticed. And at very least if they made an error than to be able to own it and take responsibility that they made a mistake.