To wear the same outfit to two weddings?

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I’m attending a wedding soon, in another country (where my dp is from, it’s a member of his family getting married). The last wedding I went to was in that same country (friend of dp), two years ago. I bought a really lovely outfit to wear to that wedding, spending a fortune. WIBU to wear the exact same thing to this one? There will be some, probably considerable, crossover of guests, it’s a small community. but really is anyone going notice or give a fuck that I’m wearing the same dress? I don’t know if it’s considered rude, or like I haven’t made an effort? The B&G were at the last wedding I wore it to.

Sorry if this is a daft question but I don’t go to many weddings so not sure of etiquette!

I would wear the dress again - you like it and it’s the more sustainable choice. It’s time to stop this ridiculous pressure to wear a different outfit for different occasions.

I would. I wouldn't care if anyone judged me for it.

Of course you can!

No-one is likely to notice (or to care if they do notice).

I am always surprised that when people talk how expensive it can be to attend weddings, there seems to be an assumption that a new outfit is necessary. It really isn't!

I've just thought back to the last wedding I went to and the only person's outfit I can remember was the Bride's.

From our wedding I can remember maybe half a dozen outfits and that is most likely from the photos rather than actual memory from the day.

People don't pay that much attention, don't give it another thought.

Phew! That’s pretty unanimous so far then! I can stop the obsessive googling of dresses. Depending on my finances nearer the time I MIGHT get a different bag and shoes, but I can stop panicking. It’s a pretty nondescript dress, very nice but a plain colour rather than a loud pattern that might stick in people’s minds.

No offence but no one will care about or remember your dress of 2 years ago

Literally nobody will either notice or care! Wear whatever you want.

Yes I am always surprised when people list a new outfit as an essential cost of attending a wedding. I had a gorgeous Agnes B dress I wore to so many of my friends weddings it was called my wedding dress 😀

Wear your lovely outfit again!

The only time one of my friends has ever noticed I was wearing a wedding outfit a second time was when the weddings were three weeks apart. About three guests were at both weddings, and at least two of us were repeating our outfits! Two years and you’ll be fine.

I always re-wear dresses to weddings, I don’t care if people notice either. It’s quite freeing 😁if I buy beautiful clothes I want to enjoy them many times.

I’ve been wearing the same outfit for about 15 years

I'm guessing Indian wedding? Wee the outfit, no one will care

why not? i’m guessing most of the male crossover guests will wear the same suit again.

It depends if there is an etiquette in the other country?
I must be odd, or observant, because I've noticed when a cousin wore the same dress 5yrs apart and a friend used the same handbag to 3 weddings!

If you are worried, could you change it slightly. Different shoes/bag, add a sparkly belt, different accessories, shawl etc?

Thanks, sounds like I’ll be fine 🤣. Not Indian, Irish, and they take weddings VERY seriously over there hence my slight worry. Last time I think I was the only guest who hadn’t been and got my hair and make up done professionally. On the plus side, being an Irish wedding last time everyone was absolutely plastered so they probably have hazy memories of what people were wearing.

I can't imagine giving a monkeys whether people noticed that I re-wear dresses tbh - are women really expected to buy new for every event?! Bizarre.

I wore the same black and white dress to 2 weddings during one summer. To the first I had a green fascinator and accessories, and to the second I wore a hairband and red accessories. The first was a family wedding, the second was a friends.

DH has been wearing the same outfit to weddings for the last 30 years. A kilt in his family's clan tartan.

Wear your dress again and again. I rewear my clothes until they don’t fit or fall apart !

If K-Middy can do it, so can you!

I’m a fan of scarves and a plain dress would have me ringing the changes that way.

I have even been known to go to the fabric shop and get a length there and run a hem around it. That was cheap but looked good all the same.