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“I’m sorry for making you snap at me”

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CeciledeVolangesdeNouveau · 26/01/2024 20:30

My DP has been complaining about a cough for days and days and has been monosyllabic and uncommunicative and generally no fun to be around. I’ve been making suggestions about what he could do about it, including ordering boots from Deliveroo. Today I made the same suggestions again and for each one he had a reason. He finally agreed to Boots and I said “why don’t you preorder?” And he said “I don’t like preordering”. I said “fine, you’re an adult, it’s your decision” and he said “I’m sorry for making you snap at me :(“.
For context I’m in hospital, my only (unwanted) visitors are my abusive parents, they keep forgetting my food (special diet) I’m alone the rest of the time, I’m seriously unwell, I’m exhausted because I’m on a noisy ward and in pain and boyfriend can’t be arsed to even text me and hasn’t asked me how I am.
Was he being passive aggressive?

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Dacadactyl · 26/01/2024 20:33

I don't think he was being PA, but I do wonder whether he's right for you, given that he's not asked how you are while you're in hospital. Seems odd.

Dotchange · 26/01/2024 20:35

Huh?
You’re worrying about the wrong thing

Merryoldgoat · 26/01/2024 20:40

So you’re in hospital really unwell and he’s complaining about his cough and not asked after your health or visited you?

If that’s the case and I’ve not misunderstood I’m seriously at a loss for wtaf is going on with women on here at the moment.

Bex5490 · 26/01/2024 20:57

What a big man baby…

Ace56 · 26/01/2024 23:28

So you’re in hospital and the conversation revolves around his cough rather than how you’re doing? That’s the problem OP, not the snapping or passive aggressiveness.

dimllaishebiaith · 26/01/2024 23:35

Forget the passive aggressiveness sounds like you have the kind of man who has to be ill when you are ill so that he can't be expected to do anything

He has a cough, that's all. Why on earth is he not visiting you and making sure you have the food you need.

I get yearly bouts of pleurisy and chest infections and I can't imagine being this unhelpful!

SplendidUtterly · 27/01/2024 16:08

He obviously doesn't care how you're doing, that's why he didnt ask @CeciledeVolangesdeNouveau

ColdButSunny · 27/01/2024 16:10

This one isn't a keeper, OP. He's selfish and unkind.

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