My lovely mum has stage 4 cancer. We're obviously devastated but it's brought us all even closer and every time I see her (without wanting to sound cheesy) the time feels really special and full of love.
I don't have many videos of my mum, lots of photos and very brief clips (eg in the background with the GC or blowing out birthday candles). My dad doesn't have any of his own to keep. When my nana died, I didn't have any way of hearing her voice again and even though it was a long time ago I remember being desperate to hear her and worried that id forget what she sounded like.
My mum has started to reminise a lot. Yesterday, as she was chatting I secretly pressed record on my phone and recorded a 2 minute audio clip.
I don't feel like I can tell my mum what I'm doing, she hasn't talked about her death directly but is it ethical for me to record her voice secretly? I know how precious it will be for my dad in a few months time but I'm not sure if I should be doing it or not.
YANBU- it's fine to record
YABU-its unethical.