2 kids to ex. He moved 120 miles away 10 years ago when we split up - he cheated before anyone asked who moved away. I've posted about him before and the same question was always asked.
Anyway kids are 14 and 12 now. He's always been crap but this has annoyed me. Equally tell me if I'm being unreasonable.
14 year old has autism. Has an echp, goes to a specialty school etc. He rang his dad to say he is too tired to travel to go to his dad's this weekend.
12 year old says she still really wants to go.
Ex travels to come and collect them. I used to meet him half way but as he became that impossible to co-parent with, I gave up and said he could just do it himself. He has no involvement with ds or his autism and I do everything on my own.
14 year old could probably do with a break. And also some time on his own to be fair away from his sister. He really does thrive off being on his own. I have a 5 year old too but it's more my12 year old that he doesn't get on with.
I ring me ex and explain and suggest that my daughter just comes up to see him on her own. She could have some 1:1 time with her dad which she never gets and my son could chill at home with me.
Especially response - 'it's a bit pointless travelling all that way just to pick one of them up so no'
Feel for my daughter here. It's fine for them to stay here - I always tell them they are old enough to decide if they want to go or stay because it's such a long way. However this is the first time one of them has said no to going and it's equally difficult when the other one wants to go! My daughter was looking forward to seeing her nana and she had already told her what she would like for tea etc etc...
I could literally hear the excitement in ex voice when my son said he didn't want to go.
Aibu to think he should still have his daughter for the weekend?