To not let my DD's dad take her this weekend?

[MyopicBunny]

His car is not road worthy and he is driving around in it, not being able to see the speedometer and the entire control panel thing not working. Apparently the brakes were also not working properly. He is still driving this car, daily.

Last weekend, I told him he can't have her if his car isn't fixed. He is acting like this is something people do all the time and it's a normal way to carry on(!)

I'm not willing to drive her to his and pick her up because she's autistic and she gets upset if I drop her off and pick her up and he lives 45 minutes away.

He has a good job and plenty of money - last week he had a hire car and he gave it back but hasn't got his car fixed!

He's breaking the law, and his insurance will be invalid. What a knob.

Apparently the brakes were also not working properly.

Don't let him have her.

If necessary find an excuse to call the police on him so he doesn't kill himself.

I think I’d be reporting the vehicle reg to the police tbh. It’s not just your DD life that is precious.
Imagine if he ploughs into a group of people on the pavement. I couldn’t live with myself knowing he was driving around in a dodgy car if something happened. Report him.

You're worried about the insurance?

He may kill himself or someone else for not having working brakes.

I wouldn't let him take her. As above, he's breaking the law. Ask him why he doesn't value his or your daughter's life enough to fix his car. Is he depressed or just a cheapskate with no concern for consequences?

He's breaking the law: not having a road worthy car- whatever the fault. His insurance is invalid- so if he causes an accident, the other people can't claim. As a road user, yes I am worried about his lack of insurance as well as his indifference to other people's safety.

What happened was that his car was written off, he got paid the insurance money and then decided to buy it back from the scrap man.

The only reason he did not bring dd back in this broken car, last weekend is that his mum told him not to! He hadn't even told me anything about it and made up some excuse for me to pick her up, which I duly did and she had a big meltdown because that's not what usually happens.

What would cause the smaller meltdown? You transporting your daughter or him not seeing her? But also, if you did transport her, would you trust him not to use the car as soon as you’ve driven off?

I think you’d be completely reasonable not to let her go until he has a roadworthy car. It’s you who’ll have to cope with the grief if anything happens to her. If he listens to his mum, could you get her on side and ask her to try and get through to him?