My sister was due to get married this summer. For various reasons the wedding has now been called off. Her and her now-ex are still amicable, but they're firm that their relationship has ended.
We'd booked a weekend away for the hen do, think Hoseasons kind of place, for 12 of us.
The question has now come up of whether we should still go ahead. The deposit is non refundable (£40 per person) but we can make changes to the number of cabins etc up to mid-Feb.
I'm hesitating on whether to go. I'm currently a SAHP and do have a small amount of "fun money" each month, and the final payment, including food for the weekend, would come to 3.5 months' money. That's not including any meals or drinks out, or other activities.
I've also got a DD who will be 11 months when we go - she's currently 8 months and still feeds multiple times per night (exc. BF and won't reliably take a bottle).
AIBU to say that now it's no longer a hen do and more of a weekend away for my sister's mates, I'm no longer wanting to attend? I would happily have made these sacrifices for a hen do, but this... isn't one.
So as not to drip feed, I love her very dearly and think of her as my best mate, but I'm pretty sure it's not reciprocated, she's a social butterfly and has heaps of friends. If the tables were turned, I'm pretty sure she'd still come to mine (though my hen do was a meal out and mini golf, which suited me perfectly - like I say she's much more social than I am!). I try and get together with her as often as possible but she's busy a lot and isn't very reliable with replying to texts/returning calls etc.