My eldest DS is 19, he's at uni, first year.
During Year 12/13 he was in a relationship with a girl, they got on well but had a pretty rough break up.
They went travelling for a month with friends, then had A-Level results where DS didn't get the grades he needed for his first choice but she got 4 A*, then a group holiday to Greece with school friends where they had an argument. She then went on holiday with her dad and DS decided that since his insurance uni was in the north and she was going to a London Uni, he'd break up with her before she left. He said if they were going to work they'd come back together in the future but no one needs the streets of a relationship while settling at uni.
He lives at home, and since he broke up with her he's been depressed. I see her dad quite often as we both go to a photography group. As soon as I get back DS runs down to ask if I asked him how she's getting on. DS2 tells me that he checks her socials all the time and gets upset if she posts something revealing or with another guy.
All of DSs closest friends moved for uni or are on a gap year travelling. He hasn't bothered to make friends at uni. He does work part time but is very much not himself.
DH thinks he's just taking the break up hard, I think this might be indicative of bigger mental health issues.
DS also blames her for him getting ABB instead of the AAA he was hoping for but really she was hardly here and the real reason he didn't do as well is he spent too much time on games and not enough studying. Part of me worries he is keeping checking up on her as he is hoping she fails as some sort of equaliser.
AIBU to think this is indicative of a bigger mental health issue and to think we need to encourage him to seek support?