Has this happened to anyone? What would be the next steps? My solicitor is going to write to him again but what if he ignores that too?
My ex husband is a narcissist. I realise this is a term thrown about so much these days but I've had so much support from therapy, dv charities , the police etc who have all said he is very narcissistic.
Our marriage ended the end of October after I called the police.
He was then straight into a new relationship and it was put on social media etc straight away.
He then asked me to file for divorce. I did using a solicitor as I am entitled to legal aid. I have done all my parts for this as requested. My solicitor has written to him asking him to complete some forms in order to get a 'clean break order' and to get him to state his wishes for the divorce. He had 2 weeks to do this. He hasn't.
3 weeks ago he was texting me to ask me to hurry it along 🙄
Also as he doesn't pay maintenance (he did but it was never regular and then stopped it altogether) I went to cms. They have worked out the payments and contacted him but he still hasn't paid. I've marked that as a missed payment and they are also writing to him with a warning.
All his post goes to his mums - this is what he wanted. He now lives with his new girlfriend/victim. I have an idea of where she lives but not an exact address.
Can anyone help me understand why this is? It feels like control still. However he also has a habit of doing things and then regrets it after - he throws a tantrum and then realises he didn't mean it. But this time it's all too late. I'm not saying he wants to get back together with me but I don't even know if it wants a divorce....yet he's with someone else now....yet he had no where to live 🤷🏻♀️
We have a child together which he sees 1 day every other weekend. It's all I will allow right now due to the abuse. He never rings, FaceTimes or texts to ask how he is inbetween visits. We are pretty much no contact - which is great as previously he was border lining on harassment!
I do wonder if the silence means he is planning something. He's in a lot of debt so I can't imagine it but I do know he recently sold his van. I'm a panicky slightly that he might be taking me to court for something...though I'm not sure what. Possibly child arrangements...yet I don't think he is really that interested in ds at all.
The whole thing is stressing me out....and that's probably the answer! He knows me well enough. He's just trying to spite me I think.