To be gutted my sis and her kids are moving abroad

[Outofideas79]

I am worried I sound like a brat but I'm so upset my sis is planning to move to Europe with her kids. My dc is close to hers and is an only child, so I've always pushed for them to be close, something we've been super successful with.

I obviously want her to be happy but I'm absolutely heartbroken. She lives not far from me. Money is very short for me so visiting will be a challenge even once a year. I want to support her, but at the same time I'm going to loose that relationship with her and her children, and my child will do too, as we won't just be able to pop across for sleepovers and meet up for days out. I'm so sad that we will loose all of that. Am I being a brat?

I think YANBU to be sad, but I would be cautious about expressing it too much. Maybe tell her you are very sad once and then put a brave face on it? It all seems very final now, but no-one can predict the future accurately, so things might work out very different than it seems right now.

My sister moved away with her family for what was meant to be 1 year, they didn’t return and I’m still sad about it.
She lives somewhere quite remote too so we don’t see each other often.
i do also feel a wee bit resentment at being left with our aging parents, but I’d never say this.
My children miss their cousins a lot.

Natural to feel upset, it’s a big change. But it’s Europe, communication is good now, and not too expensive to visit your sister outside of school hols. Try to be happy and supportive of her decision, your sister must be excited about the move. Who knows whether it will be forever, she might enjoy it for a few years and then decide to come back.

@Roselilly36 other than taking my daughyer out of school I couldn't visit outside school holidays.