Ex-p has always been an abusive nightmare. We have a court order in place so I have to allow him to see dd (6) on his designated days (one overnight during the week and every alternate weekend).
Yet again, he has cancelled 3 hours before he is meant to have her. He hasn’t had her for his allocated weekend since last year. But I still have to leave these bloody days open to him, so I have to decline party invitations if they fall on “daddy’s weekend”, I can’t sign her up for clubs she wants to do at the weekends because he might decide to see her on one of his weekends, and can’t plan my life properly because, even six years in, he can’t be gracious enough to give me 24 hours notice that he is or isn’t going to see his child (and then wants days in lieu when he suddenly does get the inclination to see her). I’ve stopped telling dd that Daddy might be picking her up from school as she wants to know why I’m there instead. It makes me doubly sad because his parents absolutely dote on dd, and they are the only grandparents she has, but I can’t take her over to see them because they still haven’t forgiven me for taking their blue eyed boy to court (we had to get a restraining order and emergency child protection order). I’m just sick of being painted as the villain by him all the time when in reality I’m just trying to keep DD’s life as calm and structured as possible, while receiving no child maintenance and nothing but abuse from him. I’m just fed up!