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Last few weeks of pregnancy,need a moan

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laughaminute · 19/03/2008 19:46

Can anyone clarify something for me, I am unsure whether it is just a hormonal thing and most people will suggest that I will feel better in a few days or if I am justifyably P**D off.
I am preg with 3rd baby, over the moon about it excited the lot.I have coped really well helath fine, had the odd 'off day' but what do you expect, crap weather,stuck in the house with 2 toddlers.
I am beginning to feel as if everyone else doesn't give the slightest damn if I am pregnant or not and not slightly bothered about how I am,Mum says that I just give the impression that I am a 'coper' and that this is why people don't offer ANY help at all,(Practical or emotional) and I feel like I need a bit of both at the minute.(Due in 5 wks)I am nervous about labour -as I know what to expect, I am quite lonely as I have given up work but seem to be avoiding people socially too, they just seem to annoy me with their trivial issues-such as them being annoyed that I haven't attended their recent Tupperware party type rants that they have between themselves.I cannot give it the time of day at the moment.My husband is great usually (Bit old fashioned,sits and waits for his tea rather than get up and make something- he would go hungry - slight exaggeration) but what he definitely tends to do every time I have been pregnant is 'Start 3 new hobbies all at the same time' all of which conveniently get him out of the bedtime routine with the DD's,they also get him out of washing up,by the time he is home I am too tire to speak about ANYTHING at all and yes slighty jealous that he has a soial life and I don't-I don't even appear worthy of taking to the cinema and recently on 2 occasions when we haven't been able to get a sitter for 2 'couples'events he went without me and left me on my own.(again)
What can I do -is it a 'speak up' in order to get a response thing or do I just forget about it, put it all down to hormones,anxiety and tiredness and just say to myself it will all be so different once DS#1 arrives safely?????PS also annoys me that despite my huge parental network of friends-not one person has offered ANY help whatsoever! They tend to come to me for support,advice and a lift anywhere etc etc-WHEN IS IT MY TURN???Am I just too horrible to be around at the moment?

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Onlyaphase · 19/03/2008 19:51

Hmm - think your mum is right, so you are seen as a coper, so no one will call to see how you are doing, as you are perceived to be doing just fine. Also they probably think you are busy, what with the toddlers and all... Happens to me all the time, as I too am one of nature's copers

BUT, I would have a word with your DH about his lack of help and support. Would it help if you told him what to do rather than leave him to work it out for himself? My DH is lovely, but does tend to wait for dinner etc - but if I tell him what I need i.e. I am really tired at the moment, please help me by coming home early Mon, Tues and Thurs and doing dinner and baths etc, then he would come home and help. Men are not mindreaders, sadly

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