Hi I’m after some advice
dh gets easily annoyed with me
I’m supposed to be resting after the birth 3 weeks ago but I find myself ringing him in morning to wake him up (he’s on sofa ) to take other dc to schools he doesn’t hear his alarm
then I come down and find he’s made dc packed lunch with mouldy bread he didn’t notice but is annoyed I pointed it out
I have to tell him to wash fruits for at least 10 sec to remove pesticides as the pressure of our kitchen tap isn’t the best as he likes to take shortcuts (laziness)
forgets to turn dishwasher on unless I remind him
doesnt take laundry down unless I tell him (even during paternity leave )
he says to stop giving him “tasks”
well all the chores are written on the fridge and he doesn’t check it
he says things like OKAYA in a sarcastic voice
he put my glass jug very close to the edge of the counter and I told him to move it back he said he was “holding it” I said if it breaks he will buy me a new one £80 water filter jug and he said no .
i don’t have my teaching income now as I’m supply teacher don’t get maternity pay but I have an online business and some disability benefits for a health condition
he still wants me to contribute to the house bills but I don’t want to
after all the stuff my body has been through I expect him to say “don’t worry about the bills “.
he said if I was a loving wife who liked him he probably would pay it all
but he thinks splitting it is best as we might separate and he wants to save his money
I have told him many times I don’t like him /smell/breath and I don’t enjoy intimacy (have Aspergers and don’t like the sensory issues)
Middle Eastern background where most Arab men are happy to provide even if the wife earns but he doesn’t. He says if I insist on man pays all he can tell me to stop working and I’d have to “obey”