Step down in work role

[Sugarmole]

I don't want to do my current role any longer... it's mentally draining due to the role. TBH I don't want to work any more.. I'm worn out and my MH has taken a battering with personal issues.

Would you step down in your role/decrease hours if you're tired, not career minded and can adjust your spending? I would still have times of MH draining but should not be as much.

Reflecting on my life so far it has not been a happy one and I'm feeling I need to make this work change to try and help myself going forward.

I'm kind of where you are, in my forties, tired. I'm considering stepping back a bit, either through role or by reducing hours.

I don't think it's because I don't have lots more in me, I do. I just don't think it's career focused and I've had enough as I come up to thirty years of work having started my first job at 14. It's quite scary though and I'm kind of watching the scales tip slowly towards the money and title just not mattering to me.

I also felt the same way for a long time. I waited until I went off on maternity leave to make the request (to leave the leadership team and go down a grade) as I thought my work would be more understanding with the context of having a baby. They've agreed to it all and I start again in a few weeks so I can't say how it's worked out but I feel so much happier about the prospect of returning.

My only concern for you would be if you cut your hours (e.g a day less) or drop a grade but then your work load isn't adjusted accordingly - for instance you're given 5 days worth of work but only paid for 4 days or you take the salary cut to go down a grade but still get given the responsibilities of your current job. This has happened to a few people I know but I guess the answer is to just be quite strict with them. Overall from what you've said it sounds like a good move if you can afford it. Good luck with the decision!

Why not? Nothing to stop you ramping your hours up again in future if you fancied ot, or finding a more ambitious job. Life is short, give yourself what you need.

Thank you for your replies @Floopani I'm similar to you in outlook although I don't have anything to give no more. I hope whatever you decide works out for you.

@FourOfDiamonds It's great your happier to return to work following your decision. Work life balance with a baby is important.
You're right about being strict with work regarding work allocation.

@Mnk711 you're right and yes I need to give myself what I need... finally!

While I think mental health and stress are really important, I also think how much longer you have in the workforce is a factor. If you were 50 and thought you could get by on less, then go for it, but if you are 27 then you need to find a change in careers.

How old are you OP? Is flexi retirement an option?

@mdinbc you made an important point. I'm approaching middle age.

@JamMakingWannaBe approaching middle age and Flexi retirement not an option but thanks... good to know.

I'm thinking so many people must be exhausted from working and life for a variety of reasons. I also have a long term health issue that doesn't help.

I'm very fortunate I may have the option to step down or reduce hours if agreed. I do envy people that don't have to work financially...I think sometimes it can bring you peace depending on your circumstances.