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To have no ambition?

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HangingOver · 22/01/2024 14:28

I'm recovering from an injury and I've run out of lives of Candy Crush so sitting in bed and musing...

So I live in a particularly hippyish part of the UK and see a lot of this narrative from other women in their mid 30s and manifesting and vision board and healing and growing etc. A lot of people round me are into astrology and spirituality too which seems to have this constant emphasis on rebirth and turning into a better version of yourself etc etc. (I don't believe in any of this stuff I should point out!). Anyway, Im starting to feel like the odd one out for having no real desire to change anything.

Work is fine. I enjoy it. I don't earn that much but have a lot of free time and can work from abroad if I want to. I don't want to become a manager or anything because I've done it before and it was hassle. I spend my free time either chilling out, cooking or doing my hobbies, or seeing my friends. I don't have children but I never wanted any of my own and I babysit my friends children a lot. DP is lovely. I get to see DF and my family quite often.

There's stuff I'd LIKE to do... Like when circs allow this year I'm going to foster animals for a charity... And I want to get better at Greek. But I don't think this sort of thing is ambitious exactly.

Should everyone be working on some sort of over arching self-improvement goals or is plodding along happily fine too?

What are your ambitions?

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Mysticguru · 22/01/2024 14:47

Nah. Why cage yourself with added stuff. If you're content then that's good enough isn't it?

MarIeyG · 22/01/2024 15:32

I think a lot of this comes down to finances. People strive for better to have a better quality of life, sick of not being able to afford things, want nice holidays and so on. If you already have all of that then there's the biggest motivator removed.

HangingOver · 23/01/2024 11:25

It's not just that, everyone I know seems to be on some sort of journey to discover and reveal their authentic self or something... Whereas I'm like... I'm done, this is me now lol

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SpeculatingRooks · 23/01/2024 11:50

I'm the same as you OP. My sister asked me what my new years resolutions were and I said I haven't got any I'm OK as I am cheers!

I get bored of the narrative of being the best version of yourself you can be, I think I probably already am the best version of myself that's possible given the raw materials provided!

Probably the other versions of me in parallel universes are crackheads or in prison!

Ultimately I'm happy and generally content, although I've had hard times like everyone else. What does it really matter if I spend my spare time knitting a wizard's hat for a teddy bear? One day we'll all be dead regardless.

SwordToFlamethrower · 23/01/2024 13:16

Are you in Glastonbury op? Lol

I don't have ambitions. I just love what I love. I love growing gourmet mushrooms and herbs. I love making medicine from them. I love foraging. I love camping, I love crafting and making things. I occasionally dabble in poetry.

Why would I dream about the 9 to 5? Why would I dream about slaving away?

I'd rather be cash poor but time rich. That is my life amd I love it.

HangingOver · 23/01/2024 13:48

I think I probably already am the best version of myself that's possible given the raw materials provided!

Hehe... Thank you. That's exactly how I feel. This will be the title of my very boring autobiography. Which I will never write.

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NonComplainingDay · 23/01/2024 13:55

Spirituality is never about adding stuff to your life, quite the opposite, it's about letting go and unlearning all we have been conditioned to believe.

HangingOver · 23/01/2024 13:58

Are you in Glastonbury op

No but it's getting like that!

A quick whizz through today's Instagram...

"3 tips for meeting goals in 2024"

"Wolf wisdom workshop - bring gentle focus to goals and desires" (no idea)

"Gratitude journalling"

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MagpiePi · 23/01/2024 14:06

You have to ask why these people are so keen to publicise their 'inner journeys'. It's just humble bragging and performative one-upmanship IMO.

HangingOver · 23/01/2024 14:08

You have to ask why these people are so keen to publicise their 'inner journeys'

And tbh 80% are selling something like life coaching

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EmpressSoleil · 23/01/2024 14:35

Probably the other versions of me in parallel universes are crackheads or in prison

I watched a film the other night where a guy met another him in a parallel universe, who was doing much better than he was. It got me wondering about other versions of me. I actually came to a very similar conclusion to you! I turned out way better than anyone expected, including me 😂so I take that as a win. I have no desire to further self improve in some way. I'm tired and want to relax!

Your life sounds great OP. I don't see that you need to change anything.

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