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To be sick of saying yes?

30 replies

Willow39 · 21/01/2024 20:20

Sick of my mum asking me to do stuff constantly.
Every day she'll ask me to do mundane errands for her that she is perfectly capable of doing herself. Whether it be 'pick this up from the shop for me'
'Can you go check that your nans heating is on'

She is unemployed and has been since I was born so it's not like she is super busy during the day and can't do these things. My parents are well off and comfortable in their late 50s living the dream basically and on holiday every month or so! My mum is in perfect health, drives and can do everything herself, so why am I expected to do this..

This evening, she's asked me to go to Tesco, pick some stuff up and drop it round to my nans. She lives closer than me to my nan (her mum) so not sure why I'm being asked! I told her I was unwell and she said 'but you went out with your friend last night and you're on your phone so you can't be unwell.' I left early last night feeling very sick and have been in bed all day today. I told her that I can't because I'm unwell so she'll have to and now she's in a huff with me for being selfish because she's had to go out as I 'can't do her a favour'

UGHHHHH

I'm fuming, why can't she do it herself?!

OP posts:
KimberleyClark · 22/01/2024 10:30

It sounds like she never wanted you to leave home and still sees you as a child rather than an autonomous adult.

AllAroundMyCat · 22/01/2024 10:36

As others have said.
Just say 'no.'

Illpickthatup · 22/01/2024 10:48

Start asking her to do things for you and see how she reacts. "Can you do me a favour mum, could you go to Tesco and pick up cuz and drop it into me? She will obviously say no because she can't be arsed doing her own errands then just use her own words against her. "I have to go to work so I don't have time to go myself and you won't even do this favour for me.".

Maybe then she'll realise she's the selfish one.

IHS · 22/01/2024 10:57

Just say what adult ds1 says to me if he doesn't want to help with anything

"No thanks" 😂

Blunt, but not particularly offensive.

Seriously, put your foot down.

Crucible · 03/06/2024 06:22

Write this out 100 times @Willow39

'if I never say NO my YES is not worth anything'

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