Article about post-partum

[weeducky]

Sorry, not an AIBU I'm just hoping someone will see it and respond.

Does anyone have a good article link about the post-partum period aimed towards men? I need something that covers: 1) the emotional and physical impact of birth on the mother and 2) why I am not going to want his parents round ASAP/why I am going to want time-limitted visits in the early days (if it could mention why having my mum round will feel different that would also be a bonus).

I feel like my partner just doesn't understand at all and thinks I'm being pathetic. With my first (different father), he brought his parents to the hospital against my wishes on day 1 and it upset me a huge amount. I know it isn't necessarily logical but I don't think logic plays much part when you've had a baby mere hours ago!

If anyone has any links or resources to show him I'd be so grateful.

He should take your word for how it affects you, not require an article. Would he be satisfied with something from a newspaper? Or does it have to be peer reviewed? Written by a woman or a man? Where does it end? When does he just believe, and support, the woman who has birthed his child?

Why does he need an article to convince him of this? And if he won’t listen to you what makes you think he’ll read one article and change his tune?

Youre the one giving birth, feeling tired sore & hormonal, the immediate days after birth are for you to rest and recover, and to do that you need your friends and family, not his (unless you get on brilliantly).

Its not that his family can’t come or aren’t important, he just needs to host them when they do and keep their initial visits brief so you can rest, feed baby etc and feel comfortable. If he can’t or won’t do that then massive red flag.

Lemon clot essay

https://community.babycenter.com/post/a29842181/the_lemon_clot_essay-_if_you_are_planning_to_have_people_over_after_birth_you_need_to_read_this

I agree and he has reluctantly agreed to do what I want but I feel like he's not taking me seriously/thinks I'm being dramatic which is why I'd like an article to show him.

Honestly ! This time it's an article then he will question the authenticity of the article my ex partner was the same!!! He said well that's not a science based article and blah blah blah! Honestly sometimes you just have to put your foot down and say, unless you're giving birth I said no! Trust me, the article you will find. But what's the next thing? It won't end. Also I was the same, I wanted no family around me after giving birth coz I'm in my most vulnerable state.

I know why you want an article but sadly that probably won't change his attitude.

Maybe some advice from men about how the birth and post partum experience might be more impactful. I feel like he's the type of man to take a man's word more seriously 🙄