Does everyone feel overload with messages

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Can people keep up with all their messages?
Are we in overload now? Or are a lot of people on top of it it all.

I am completely swamped. There are so many different accounts etc to check. It really gets me down.

One of the reasons I am so slow in responding to messages and texts. I have notifications turned off and look when I remember

I refuse to be spread too thin and reply (or not) at my own convenience.

On blackberry there used to be a hub. And you could add channels to that hub.
It was an easy way to view messages in one place.

Why so many?

I’m not overloaded. I use text messages, WhatsApp, fb messages (rarely), several fb groups where I might get tagged and gmail. All of that is on my phone, and all has notifications. It doesn’t feel like 4 different things as it just feel like one “place” - my phone.

I'm a bit swamped, but still prefer messages to phone calls.

Because I have lots of family, lots of friends, lots of interests and endless shite from the rest of the world who want feedback on this and a review on that and an alert they have sent you a message on their website and then reminders for tax and car tax and tv licence and mot and this contract is expiring and that contract can be upgraded.

But then you knew that, you are just taking the piss. Still I like MN messages so you didn't cause me the harm you hoped to.

I have archived the school mum message because I'm not really arsed with it. I also mute what's app groups. I will reply but I hate being overloaded.

Also my child's teacher last messaged when a child sneezed. This teacher doesn't use the dojo a lot and I'm grateful.

What?!!! 😳
Hold your horses!
I’m not taking the piss at all. (edited to add not)
I’m asking a genuine question! Because understanding why you have so many is the key to understanding if - and then how - you can reduce them. For example, multiple email accounts that you can’t close - use autoforward to manage from one.
Car tax and TV licence - still on direct debit and know you can mentally ignore them.
etc.

Accusing me of hoping to cause you harm for asking to understand your situation better?

Fucking hell take a breath man. That poster wasn't having a dig.

Not really, no. I prioritise and get through them as and when I can. Basic life skills, I'd say.

Told you messages were annoying. Very easy to get overloaded.

Yes, it’s easy to get overloaded - for some people. And other people not.
Sometimes I guess that’s personality and hard to deal with, other times some practical tips can help.
For example, if you’re someone who is stressed by non stop “ping”, turn off all notifications and set aside 15 mins a day to check everything.
Still find it odd that you’ve attacked me as causing you harm, just for asking you to elaborate on your post.

"why so many" but now you start another post with "yes it's easy to get overloaded'.

Either you are learning very, very quickly or you were being disingenuous when you asked "why so many".

It is hard to keep on top of things.

I have a joint email account with my dp. Things that we both want to be able to see like household bills, holiday and travel bookings etc go there.
That's manageable.

There's an email account where I get junk sent to. I clear it out occasionally but can ignore it.

3rd email account is my official work one. Needs checking daily.

4th is for a voluntary position I hold, needs checking daily but is fairly quiet.

5th is my main personal email account. I have direct emails from individuals but also substacks, Gmail discussion groups, newsletters etc. I checked it yesterday and there were over 200 unopened emails because I had only been opening the most urgent ones.

Looking at WhatsApp, there were messages today from 14 different individuals or groups. 5 others had messaged yesterday.

Plus Signal and direct messages on Twitter/X (I have 2 personal accounts and am an admin for 2 others).

Plus the occasional text or message on Messenger. I've given up trying to keep up with Facebook alerts.

There are also alerts for the members' website for the political party that I'm a member of.

I put off even getting a mobile phone for years, far later than everyone I know but seem to have gone from one extreme to the other.

I’m really bemused at what your problem is 😏

Why misquote me?

I didn’t say I was easily overloaded (and by your reckoning, therefore learning quickly) I said that it’s easy to get overloaded “ - for some people”.

On this particular issue, for me - not particularly. Sure I have days where I think, “that’s a lot” but no, I never feel overloaded by a TV license reminder, when it’s on a continuously renewing direct debit 🤷🏻‍♀️

I really don’t understand why you’re attacking me, for asking a genuine question. If you don’t explain why you’re overloaded, how can we understand? The answer may need to be that you check messages less, or expect another person to pull their weight on family admin, or toughen up with extended family that no, you can’t always answer immediately.

I probably average about 10 emails and 1 SMS a day, most of which can be deleted without opening. So it takes just a few minutes. I don't use messaging apps as they're a hopelessly inefficient way of having conversations.

Honestly, no I don't feel swamped. I have a work, personal and volunteering email. Work is work. Personal is a lot of junk, I just delete, anything else is read, dealt with and filed away. My volunteering, is just another work avenue, takes up very little time in email form. Most of my friends message on WhatsApp or FB messenger. I either read and reply, read and delete, read and file. Not sure why this would overload me.