To not want my friend's boyfriend to stay in my house while I'm on hols

[TheDullWitch]

My friend asked if her boyfriend and his son (who I ve never met, don t even know how old he is) can housesit whilst we go away. She doesn t want him staying under her own roof because she has a lot of work to finish. He s a nice bloke, I ve met him a few times, but I feel really weird about this. I'm quite private about my home.

But when I told her I'd rather not let him, she got rather outraged. But I can t imagine ever saying to a friend "do you mind if this near-stranger sleeps in your house whilst you're not there."

Am I being unduly prissy?

i wouldn't say it's normal for people to be okay with having strangers stay in their home whilst they're away.

I never mentioned getting a housesitter.

I would absolutely not want strangers in my house whilst I wasn't there.

It's just not on and she is being very thoughtless to ask and get upset at a refusal.

YANBU

Years ago when dh and I were going on holidays for a few weeks, SIL and her boyfriend (now her dh) more or less invited themselves to stay while we were away. I wasn't entirely happy about it - especially because as all our family live outside the UK it would have been nice to see them while they were there. Definitely wouldn't have been happy for someone outside the family to stay - unless it was going to be doing us a favour like cat-sitting, etc

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YANBU at all. Her boyfriend is, as someone else said, her problem. He can either book himself a b&b or stay home. WOuld she have tried to persuade you to put him up if you were there that weekend?

My parents stayed whilst we were on honeymoon. They inadvertently switched off the plug that runs the freezer so we returned home to a house reeking of rank prawns. All the food in our freezer (inc our wedding cake which was sponge) had to be binned.

YANBU!

Wow. Does she have a history of self-centered behaviour? Using people for her own purposes? That's just creepy to approach you and expect you to allow her bf + kid run rampant in your house! Esp if she has room at hers and just doesn't want to be inconvenienced! What a selfish twit!

so what are they going to do all day if shes busy? very strange request, they should stay in their own home, just because she doesnt want them she cant force them on you. tell her to fluff off.

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I can normally hazard a guess but on this occasion I am completely flumoxed as to the meaning of "dully" in a pants' context ?!?

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How bizarre not only to ask but to then get shirty with you when you said no

Absolutely no way on earth!!!

What a cheek!

You are SO NBU

I have let DS' dad 'borrow' my house to bonk his ladyfriend in on a couple of occasions when I was away (she has nosy teenage DC), and that doesn;t bother me - I know her well enough to be sure that she won't pinch my jewellery or throw up behind the sofa. In fact, the two of them are polite enough to change and launder the bedding afterwards . But I do think your friend's request is pretty wierd, Dullwitch. I would really be wondering what she was thinking/plotting - do you have lots of valuable antiques or anything??

I wouldn't let a stranger stay at my house while I was away either.

My family, on the other hand, have free reign of my house when I'm away, and my siblings take full advantage to bonk escape my parents. And they launder the bedding