Hey
Dh has this annoying habit of following me around and asking what I'm doing.
If this was it I might not be so bothered but when he asks what I'm doing it's always in an accusing tone or quite abrupt like he is catching me up to no good.
I decided to have a long bath this morning as dc were busy and we had no plans. After about 15 minutes he comes in the bathroom and abruptly asked what I'm doing. I didn't lock the door as dc sometimes needs to come in. I just sighed and told him I'm having a party obviously.
I was then doing my hair and he is wandering around the bedroom staring into space. He again asked me what I was doing and when I said doing my hair he kept commenting on how long it took.
I was playing with dc earlier and again he was wandering around the house and when I went to wash my hands he was stood near the sink and asked what I was doing.
I wondered if he was bored or wanted to spend time with me so invited him to join us. That lasted 5 minutes until he was bored and wandered off to watch sport.
Even if he has been completely occupied doing his own thing for ages, if I go upstairs or into the kitchen, if I'm not back within a few seconds he follows me to ask what I'm doing.
I got annoyed today because I am in pain with a long term condition I have and was wanting some privacy to do my treatment. He came in the room quite abruptly and used the annoyed tone he used to question me as if I was doing something wrong. I asked him what his problem was and he got all defensive and acted hurt.
He's not controlling in any way and is actually the opposite. He's normally very mild and decent.
It's really getting on my nerves because between him and the dc I don't get a minutes privacy. Plus it feels like he thinks I am up to no good or that I should be doing something else.
He does his own thing and is often busy so it's not as if he can't occupy himself or he is left to look after dc alone for hours or anything.
Aibu to wonder what he wants?