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He keeps trying to make me jealous.

26 replies

Spicedspice · 20/01/2024 18:26

My ex of a couple of years (no children) keeps doing things intentionally to try to make me jealous. Such as flirting with others trying to play mind games to make me believe certain things about him and his situation regarding another woman etc. I can't go in to too much detail as it will be outing.

I'm not jealous at all and never really been the jealous type so I don't know what he is playing at or what he is trying to achieve.

Can anyone help me out with this? Any reasons behind this madness?

OP posts:
ZekeZeke · 20/01/2024 18:27

Block him?

Mothership4two · 20/01/2024 18:32

Same question as Zeke - why isn't he blocked?

Fluffyfleece · 20/01/2024 18:42

Ignore him. Wounded ego or trying to get a reaction I guess.

LadyKenya · 20/01/2024 18:44

I got as far as my ex...

GreyhpundGirl · 20/01/2024 18:46

Block and move on. If you don't have children, why are you still tied to him?

whitebreadjamsandwich · 20/01/2024 18:48

Why are you still even talking to him?

Testina · 20/01/2024 18:49

Are you in the same social group?
I don’t think it needs any great level of analysis.
He wants you to think you’re missing out, as that’s good for his ego to think he could make you jealous.
And if I’m wrong… still doesn’t need any more analysis, because the truth would still be some dull non consequential shit that’s not your problem.
Limit your contact and just ignore, surely?

WillYouPutYourCoatOn · 20/01/2024 18:50

Why are you even in contact with him? You are absolutely enabling this stupid behaviour of his, and he's probably finding it really entertaining that you are still bothered about what he does.

Move on.

littleburn · 20/01/2024 18:58

He's an ex from 2 years ago. Surely by now you're just two people living your lives without reference to each other? So either you're putting a 'jealous' interpretation onto totally normal behaviour that isn't in any way centred on you, or he's actively seeking you out and telling you stuff, in which case just block/ignore.

Hatty65 · 20/01/2024 19:23

I'd block him. If he's texting you to let you know/posting it on SM just remove your access to it. Job done. You don't care and it's boring.

If he's doing it in the local pub I'd probably look over and laugh and then pay little attention.

Tlolljs · 20/01/2024 20:14

How do you know? Why are you still in contact with an ex? No children you say just ignore the twat.

Harrietsaunt · 20/01/2024 20:18

I don’t understand this at all. Do you still see him regularly? Why?

If this is online shite just block him.

Wadermellone · 20/01/2024 20:20

He is an ex of a few years.

Are you sure his actions are all aimed at you. Surely he is just living his life.

Why do you have so much contact with him?

Original poster
Spicedspice · 20/01/2024 20:27

Sorry he is not an ex from 2 years ago. We were together for around 2 years. We split up a few months ago.

OP posts:
Harrietsaunt · 20/01/2024 20:30

Spicedspice · 20/01/2024 20:27

Sorry he is not an ex from 2 years ago. We were together for around 2 years. We split up a few months ago.

OK, but why are you still communicating with him?

PonyPatter44 · 20/01/2024 20:31

Block him on every channel, and move on with your life.

OrigamiOwls · 20/01/2024 20:35

I'm guessing he's doing all this over social media? If so just block him. He's being a child and you don't need to show any reaction to him, that's what he's looking for

Wadermellone · 20/01/2024 20:36

Spicedspice · 20/01/2024 20:27

Sorry he is not an ex from 2 years ago. We were together for around 2 years. We split up a few months ago.

Ok. My post still stands. He is an ex of a few months. Why would you even have contact with him.

The fact that you don’t want to say how you know these things suggests he isn’t telling you directly.

He is living his life. You seem to just think it’s all aimed at you.

TheShellBeach · 20/01/2024 20:36

Spicedspice · 20/01/2024 20:27

Sorry he is not an ex from 2 years ago. We were together for around 2 years. We split up a few months ago.

Even so, you could block him.

ManateeFair · 20/01/2024 20:39

He’s your ex. He can flirt with whoever he likes and his situation with ‘another woman’ is none of your business. You need to stop taking an interest in his life and/or looking at his social media if you’re going to be bothered by this stuff. Have some dignity and step away.

beetr00 · 20/01/2024 20:46

@Spicedspice for your own sanity you could go NO contact.

Why are you giving him headspace?

Testina · 20/01/2024 20:49

Spicedspice · 20/01/2024 20:27

Sorry he is not an ex from 2 years ago. We were together for around 2 years. We split up a few months ago.

Don’t bother to explain why you’re still in contact then 🤷🏻‍♀️

MonsteraMama · 20/01/2024 21:01

The answer remains the same, just block him! You have the blessing of having literally zero reason to communicate with him so stop it. Living in your head rent free is exactly what he wants and he seems to be succeeding.

PyongyangKipperbang · 20/01/2024 21:04

Well firstly I agree you should block him.

Secondly, who the hell cares what he is trying to do? I am guessing you dumped him? So his ego is bruised and he needs to convince himself that you would have him back if only he would have you.....except I bet that if you did ask him back he would be at your front door before you had put the phone down!

If you are have to see him in person in some situations go with a broad genuine smile, with head tilt and a slightly patronising "Oh I am so glad that you are getting back out there"

Aquamarine1029 · 20/01/2024 21:34

Stop talking to this idiot. Why on earth are you? The solution to your problem is about as easy as it gets.

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