To wish they would stop this nonsense.

[Beastlylittleparasite]

Bit of a culture clash with family. I live very differently to them. They’re all 1 person to a four/five bed house type people. Very materialistic. They’re nice people don’t get me wrong but huge workaholics and very flashy with everything from holidays to cars. They all drive very expensive cars.
i live in a small house, cute but modest semi and I don’t even have a car I dont want one and don’t need one. I live In the perfect location to not need a car because school/ drs/ hospital , leisure centre and shopping centre are all within 10 mins walk. Even for holidays I catch a tube and I’m where I need to be for further travel.
so why, oh why do I constantly get told I need a car? I promise I never ask for lifts off them ever, if I need to travel by car say to a funeral or something I book a taxi.
i do absolutely everything independently, none of them have even ever babysat for me or helped with house moves or emergencies or anything. We meet 3/4 times a year for a meal and a catchup. It’s a good two years since theyv even been to my home or vice versa. So I could understand if I was asking them for lifts or something but I never ever do.
every time I see or speak to them I’m informed I need a car. Why? Can anyone suggest why they think my life is somehow incomplete because I don’t have a lump of metal on my driveway and I have to occasionally sit on a bus or train?
I'm missing something?

I think it goes back the 1980s when Margaret Thatcher ( or someone in her government anyway ) made the comment that anyone who didn't own a car was a bit of a loser. Obviously not worded that way , but that's what was meant.
Ds2 can drive but he isn't interested at all in owning a car. His friends think his a bit odd, but he hated the lessons and doesn't want to pay out for one. I don't blame him tbh plus soon it'll only be EV's for sale and they will are much more expensive.
You sound as if you can get around fine without one, it's obviously harder for those that live in rural places and for some it is a status symbol or a necessary evil in order to work etc , but I was brought up without a car and we just had to use public transport
At least you're not always asking for lifts or whatever, it's nothing to do with them really , but the constant comments from them must be a pain!

Have you actually said to them “will you please stop going on about cars? I don’t want one or need one, I’ve told you that a hundred times, just stop”.

Or just hold your hand up and say “oh not this again Sandra, it’s boring.” And change the subject.

They sound very tedious!

We have a small car. It is mostly used for local short trips but is perfectly adequate for longer motorway trips. Every time we see the in-laws they ask us when we are buying a new card and by new they really mean bigger. So even if you got a car, it probably wouldn't be right. To me, it is an inability to see things from other people's perspective and assume their needs must be the same as yours.