To find these drunken messages off putting and cringey?

[krakowpow]

I've been seeing someone for 3 months. We have drank in each others company, and so I've always been a bit pissed when he has. However, tonight he was out had some drinks. Has went back to his place and has been sending me the cringiest videos and voicenotes. Slurring his words. Not making too much sense. Being overly emotional.

And I'm just like ugh, I had to stop a few of his videos half way through as I couldn't bear to watch them. I have been known to send a drunken text or two in my time and I suddenly now see how repulsive I must have come across.

I honestly feel a bit put off and bless him, he's a lovely guy but the messages and mainly videos, oh I'm embarrassed for him.

Would anyone else find this extremely off putting?

Ditch

I think your username is off putting.. or rather disturbing..
Krakow prisoner of war?
Anyhow that aside.. I'd see how he is when he sobers up.. he might be apologetic.. can't remember.. but they do say .. true feelings come out in drink.

Oh god I randomly picked a username. Did not think or mean anything by it and never intended the POW to stand for anything.

I think there were niggles before, as if you really liked him you wouldn't take issue with drunken ramblings if in the right spirit? But also ok to be directed by them in how you feel of course. If it puts you off not a lot you can do

Many people are really annoying when drunk. I used to be a big drinker but hardly drink now as it makes me feel shit so now I get to see my DH and friends drunk where before I’d have been drunk with them (not that any of them get drunk that frequently). Drunk people repeat themselves and slur and get overly sentimental. It’s kind of funny for about 5 minutes and then just irritating.

I suppose there’s a possibility this has given you the ick with no return but hopefully when you see him sober again, your attraction will be there as before. 🤞

So you will sound the same as him? If I were you I would stop drinking for a long time and I would separate from this man and focus on yourself.

Drunks are annoying and boring when you're sober. If you have to get drunk to tolerate him it doesnt sound much.fun.

@krakowpow

I understand.. it stood out to me because I've a friend visiting there right now.

Yes, I would. But I'd also know that I've done that myself (to him) by your own admission so you are no better than he is. Maybe play the videos back to him when he's sober. He'll probably cringe, too. I wouldn't give up on him as you are no better than him, you're the same, so he can say the same about you. I'd just take this as a wake up call for you both, to scale back the heavy drinking.

We're you drunk when you chose it?

Joking aside, you cannot unsee this and you must be reflecting on your own behaviour. Even if the ick is just about bareable, I think you now know you need to get your own life in order. Something has clicked. What do you want out of life? Will you be able to achieve it with a drunk/binge drinker?
I believe this is called the contemplation stage!

I think the thing here is, you say you've done similar before, are you still at that stage in your life? To get drunk enough to send those voice notes I mean?

For me, as someone who doesn't really drink, I'd be wondering if this was a sign that he was a heavy/ regular drinker- and I'd worry if our lifestyles were a bit too different. It is only 3 months in...has he been this drunk before in the time you've been seeing each other?