Inviting kids to party when their parents are rude?

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DD (7) has her birthday party coming up soon (trampoline park) and wants to invite several of her friends, which I'm fine with.

2 of the dad's of these kids have purposely ignored me recently. Like, turning head away, desperate not to speak to me.

Because of this, I really don't feel like inviting their kids to the party!

Would you invite their kids to the party?

Not sure what to do really

I would, because you aren’t a child and it’s not your party! If your child wants them there, invite them.

I would because it's dds party. Are you sure they were being rude and not just awkward or something?

You’re inviting the kids not the parents

I'd invite them.

You should never visit the sins of the parent on the child. Ever.

I have this daily at my children’s school. I’ve chatted to people before at parties and got on well, then in the playground I sometimes feel like some parents would rather drop dead and die than smile and say morning. I wouldn’t take it personally, I think some people just have fuck all about them and don’t have the confidence to make pleasantries. I would invite them and kill the miserable bastards with kindness.

So this is what I think, being a sensible adult.

But I do begrudge it a bit...!

Re. Rude/awkward, I don't think so.

These are people who I've had lots of head nodding/hellos/ brief conversations with.

So not sure what's changed.

This

Invite them and see what happens. Is it just the dads behaving like this? Do you know the mums?

It's not the child's fault their parent is an arse. So if your child wants to invite them, I would.

If your child likes them, invite them. Either make sure parents drop off and leave, or don't offer hospitality towards parents staying. Let the kids have fun and just ignore the rude parents, greet them with a cheery hello and say they can either collect at x time or buy themselves a coffee and wait. Chat with the ones you get on with.

Invite them but exclude them from the games

Invite the kids

You can always make it a drop and go party.

Invite them because it’s a party for your child not a social event for the adults.

I find a lot of the time when people feel they have been ignored, in actual fact they are blowing up a very minimal interaction where the other person was otherwise distracted. From your POV you were ignored because they didn’t look at your but you have no idea what their POV is. Maybe they had an awful day and didn’t feel like interacting with others, maybe they didn’t see you because they were deep in thought about something else.

I'd invite the kids. At 7 I'd expect it to be a "drop and go" party so the parents wouldn't be hanging about much anyway.

I'm not saying this is the case in this situation but I have quite bad social anxiety and sometimes even talking to school mum friends is draining and I just don't want to. On those days they'll get a wee bit of polite chit chat from me and then others I'll feel much better and have full blown conversations.

No, why take it out on a child if you think a parent is snubbing you?

Let your child invite who they like. You do not have to be friends with every parent at the school gate. Some parents just want to drop and go.

Whatever the reason don't make it between your child and their child because unlike you and the parents, these children do have to interact. Would be a pity if this hostility (if it is that) gets passed on to the kids.

Invite them but don’t give the dads the time of the day. A quick hello. No offer of drinks. No food. No smiles. No offers to sit.

Ideally they should fuck off home and leave kids there.

I think you need to accept it’s not your birthday party, feel free not to invite them when you have a birthday party though.