It’s all about sleep!

[Stressy22]

I’ve posted before about my DP wanting to sleep rather than get intimate. We used to have a good sex life but now it’s dwindled right down to maybe twice a week at a push, which is still a lot to some!

he works 4 on 4 off and is up at 4am for work. I find now he uses that as an excuse to not get intimate, even though he’ll go to bed at 9pm. On his days off he says he has to have a long lie in, would stay in bed until midday if I let him, and says that he has to relax on a couple of his days off.

i just find that he uses the ‘I’m tired’ and having to relax as an excuse to not get intimate, and I feel we only have sex now when he wants to get his rocks off. AIBU to feel like this.

is he permanently on 4-4?

sounds hellish long term

@regenerate yeah he is. It has effected our relationship.

4am starts? 9pm bed means 7 hours sleep
I'd be flat out exhausted too!
Doubt I'd even feel like doing it twice a week.

YANBU to feel unfulfilled but YABU a bit to think he's making excuses when he's working such unsociable hours.

If his hours have affected your relationship in other ways too, I'd be having words with him about whether it's a tenable thing any more.

Also
Just let him sleep until midday on his day's off. Its fine.