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Should son move out?

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BluebellForgetmenot · 18/01/2024 22:44

Son is 23yrs old, working full time, lives at home, pays rent. I have had the usual issue, such as staying out late, girlfriend around all the tine, mess etc, but recently have found out he’s injecting testosterone. I feel very upset about this & have spoken to him, explained the risks etc. He is using testosterone to increase muscle mass nothing more, and does not need it medically. He basically has said it’s his life, his body. So I have said I do not want it in the house & not to use it in the house. I have younger children and do not want them influenced or aware of this behaviour. He obviously is not very happy about this, saying there’s no privacy, he’s an adult and should be allowed to do what he wants. He also wants girlfriend to stay over. So I said get your own place and then you can. AIBU to have said this??? I feel bad now, I love him very much and want him to stop using testosterone. Is it time for him to move out so then he matures a little?? What would others do?? I do not know where he got it from, he won’t tell me.

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BreakingAndBroke · 18/01/2024 23:06

Yanbu. If he wants to do his own thing, good luck to him. He is 23 and working and already paying rent, so this shouldn't be a big step for him, it should be a natural one (especially if he has a girlfriend he could potentially move in with).

I don't know enough about hormone injections to comment on that, so I guess maybe sit down with him and Google it together or look at why he is injecting things and whether there are other routes to achieve whatever it is he is hoping to achieve.

whatthehellnow23 · 18/01/2024 23:08

As someone with 29/18/17 yr old kids I would not be happy, I do feel it's reasonable for you to say the usage of recreational drugs etc is not acceptable at your home and he is old enough to find somewhere to live if that's what he chooses to do.
Or stop and stay at home. His choice.
I also gave a 6 year old who I would not want anything like this around so I understand your concerns x

Hankunamatata · 18/01/2024 23:10

No to gf staying over and injecting. Your house, your rules. If he doesn't want to abide by the rules, he moves out

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