Thank you in advance to whoever reads this.
Me and DP been together 12 years, engaged 9 but ended up putting our wedding off due to surprise DC1 and then a long, slightly traumatic story and another DC.
We are finally in a good position and have enough for a wedding, we have talked a few weeks ago and decided we will get married this year rather than put it off until next summer as I have a DGG(reat)M whose health has taken a bit of a turn and we would both love her to be there.
We would be getting married in my home country (EU) as we have always wanted to.
This feels like a long time coming and for the longest time (due to many different reasons) we thought we would never do it.
We have found a venue that we like that only had availability in November, the photographer we like has offered a discount as November is an unpopular month to get married in my home country. We have a few other services lined up which we have sussed would also offer a discount for that month, we would just need to pull the trigger to get this going.
However I have spoken to my DGM today, she is my DGGMs daughter and lives with her. As we spoke I mentioned that we are looking around at venues/church/registrar super close by and also close together to make it as easy as possible for DGGM, unfortunately she has informed me that DGGM is not well enough to go anywhere anymore and would most certainly not be able to attend even the ceremony. Her short term memory is also pretty non existent so she would not even remember attending.
So now we stand in front of the question, do we still go ahead with this November wedding which we were pretty set and happy on (flights to my HC are very cheap this time of year too) or considering DGGMs health and the fact that she was the main reason we even looked at getting married this year should we put it off and get married in a warmer month next year?
Part of me feels like if we don't pull this trigger we will never do it, we had a very provisional date set a few years ago but due to something bad happening we pulled out before even booking anything other than the venue.
Another part wonders if spring/summer is a nicer time to be getting married or does it not really matter? I always imagined myself getting married in the summer but I am not sure at all now.
Another thing I don't like thinking about but I am very aware of is that DGGM is in really bad health and could potentially not make it until November, however she could go on for another 2 years for all we know. If she did pass during the preparations we would have no choice other than to go ahead as we would have UK guests that would have already purchased flights and accommodation...
So...should we just go for it and finally tie the knot or put it off again? WWYD?