Just need somewhere to vent a bit..
I have a 2 year old daughter, she is amazing, does have tantrums but usually due to being tired or hungry and are quite short lived, this week however she has been very unwell, high temp, bad stomach, constipated (been to gp and having treatment).
My issues are that my husband who works from home, is unable to deal with any sort of crying or whining, I am very much gentle Parenting style, talk her though it, try and shift focus onto something else, but this week she has been so ill and so tired from not sleeping due to illness she has been off the scale upset, the only real time she has been ok is when she is either breastfeeding or the hour after having Calpol which has been challenging go get her to take.
My husband gets very annoyed, snaps, what's wrong, there's nothing wrong with you, I'll put you in your room and give you something to cry about, makes threats and shouts.
Which makes things a million times worse, causes her to be more upset and even vomit, all the while I'm trying to calm her down, and then I have it off him for fussing with her, saying I'm causing the bad behaviour, to put her in her room and let her cry.
I refuse to do this, she is in pain and she needs her mother and comfort. And I don't believe in dealing with any behaviour like this.
I have had hardly any sleep for around a week, I do all night nursings, I do all house work and meet all our daughters needs, make food and everything as I am mindful that he works all day and I am stay at home mum.
I am finding his attitude very difficult and am at my wits end to be honest. Every time she has had a tantrum or complaint about something in the past he always has some kind of dog at me over it.
We are due to be going on holiday in 2 days time, our first family holiday, he has told me to 'take my effing mother' instead. He will just sleep on the sofa and pay the effing bills every month.
He has chosen to sleep on the sofa due to me cosleeping with our daughter, she has been the most awful sleeper at the best of times and it has been the only way to get rest, he has refused to try and sleep in bed, he has refused to sleep in the spare room too, he chooses to go on the sofa, where although not ideal..he does get a full night sleep (and has other options!). The plan was to get her in her own bed once we return from holidays so at least I have a bit of a charge before going but the illness has seen to that now lol.
She has done some nights in her own bed with me getting up about 4 times per night to resettle her and finally giving in as I've been so exhausted.
Any advice on any of the above please?
Sorry that it's long.. I have trimmed a lot out!