I try at the end of the working day to make a nice meal and to sit down at the table with DH with the nice plates, glasses and perhaps a candle and some music, even on a week night. It doesn't always happen but most nights I manage to do this and I find its like a little oasis of calm and just a nice time for me and DH to reconnect after a day apart. In general I try to make the house nice and cosy and tidy just for the two of us and to always have some time each evening to spend together either playing a game, watching a film or just reading before bed with a nice treat.
Anyway my cousin stopped by this evening unexpectedly on her way home from work to drop off something she borrowed last year. She came in just as we were sitting down at the kitchen table to eat, I'd made a risotto and had set the table, some music and a candle. She apologised and said she didn't know it was a special occasion, I said it wasn't I just liked to use our nice things. She then laughed and said that she only bothered with all that if she had guests coming and that it was too much hassle. I know some people are like this and its fine if that is what they prefer to eat on the sofa in front of the tv with the big light on, to each their own but is it really that laughable to want to make an effort and to make things nice just for us? I would do the same if it were just me as well because I want to.
Am I being unreasonable, do you make an effort just for yourself and the people in your home or is all that strictly for guests?