AIBU to really miss someone…

[Peachesandmelons]

I feel silly typing this but I just really miss my ex boyfriend. It’s been ages - we broke up 5 years ago - and I just miss him and feel quite sad about it.

I function. I go to work. I see people. I don’t think anyone would realise anything is up but I feel sad. It’s not like I can’t get out of bed but it’s just a dim sadness I constantly have. I want to talk to him and see him again but he doesn’t want to speak to me.

I reached out last year but he politely but firmly said no.

Am I destined to always feel this? I have made my peace that I will but I would still rather not.

I think sometimes we miss the feelings we had when we were in a certain situation, not necessarily the person themselves.

I sometimes look back and think I miss certain people, in reality there were reasons it didn't work out, but it's more like I miss the feeling of freedom, or youth, or adventure, or possibilities or whatever was going on then.

It's also worse if you have a rejection because then it sets off the whole pining for what you can't have thing, which romanticises things even more.

Do you feel there's something missing from your life thay you had around the time period gou were with him? Why did you break up in the first place?

Thanks so much for your reply. Yes I suppose my life feels emotionally quite empty. I have no desire to date or find someone else. I guess I pine after him a lot.

we broke up at the time because I had come out of a very long term relationship and I just wasn’t ready for something new but really I regret that now. It’s a shame because I feel the relationship and everything that I went through afterwards taught me a lot about myself, and I don’t regret that. I just wish I could move past it.