Brother-in-law

[Seamstressfortheband]

I married too young to what turned out to be a useless man. He flatly refused to give oral sex - despite insisting on receiving it, very little in the way of kissing or affection and the sex I presume isn't great from what I read elsewhere. I was a virgin when I married so I have no comparisons. My twin sister, we're not identical, is married to one of lifes good guys. She talks of the love making and the oral that she almost passes out from and the unselfish nature. I'm not bitter, I love her more than anyone, but despite knowing about my crappy sex life, she throws it into conversations. I'm actually leering at my bro-in-law when I see him now, as I know he does all the things I've never experienced which is just weird. Am I being unreasonable to mention it that the comments hurt me? Please understand that I am happy that she's happy. I just don't know how to approach it or if I even should.

Don't mention it to her but work out getting rid of your useless husband and finding someone new.

Maybe a better solution is to find a decent guy who treats you well and then you'll not have to feel 'hurt'. I don't think you're actually feeling hurt i think you're envious so maybe it's time for you to also find one of life's good guys.

Well obviously you must never mention it to her and be meticulous with your behaviour around your BIL.
But quietly make your plans to exit this marriage. He doesn't sound like a very nice man and it would be a great shame if you were never to experience what really good sex can be like with a willing and able partner who sees it as a shared experience.
Good sex doesn't^^ make a marriage but by golly bad sex can break one.

Jesus, if my sister started telling me about anyone licking her fanny, I'd tell her it was TMI.

Just stop discussing her sex life if it's bothering you.

I think it’s a bit TMI especially when she knows your experience is different. You can do something about it, and I certainly wouldn’t be giving any oral if not receiving

Personally I’d ask her to tone it down… she knows you have a shit sex life so telling you all about hers is hurtful… salt on a wound. If she can’t see this then she has a problem- or she is lying

Quite a vile post. What on earth goes on in some people’s minds I’ll never understand

I'm not prude in any way but why on earth do 2 sisters need to discuss getting their bits licked?? Seems way over the line for family discussions that!