I really feel like I’m running out of time

[CloudyLemonadex]

I really do! I’m nearly 27, been in a relationship for 18 months.

I have always wanted to get a house, then get married, then start having kids before 30.

However, I’ve just moved in with my boyfriend’s family in an attempt to buy a house in the next two years. So I’ll likely be 29.
My boyfriend wouldn’t propose before this time because he’d want to have the money, so I think this would come after. We don’t have a lot at the moment. Then we’d actually have to save for the wedding and then get married, I’ll be waaaay gone 30. This doesn’t even factor in the kids yet!
Plus I have PCOS so I worry about my fertility and age.

I just want everything to happen from now but we simply don’t have the money and we want to be stable and secure, which I know is sensible.

I can’t help but feel like I’m running out of time! I know we shouldn’t see it as a timeline but in all reality, it’s not going to happen anytime soon unless we run into some money.

Why don’t you just have a little wedding if you want to be married first? It sounds like the most important thing to you is children so if having an expensive ring/wedding day would get in the way of starting a family, then don’t spend loads on it.

Hopefully you can save loads in the next year, get a house in 2025, have a little wedding and start trying age 28/29, loads of time!

Change the order house, baby then marriage.

Nearly 27!! Honestly, you've got time. Weeps thinking about how I was pissing my time away at nearly 27

Getting married doesn’t have to cost much money at all.

If children are important just have a very cheap wedding, then no need to save for that part.

Nearly 27 🤣

You need to calm down. While it's a good idea to have a rough idea of what you want and when, life doesn't always play ball.

I expected this to be about a woman ten years older than this.

You could be a home owner with someone you love before 30 op, you are in a fortunate position. Please try to reframe your thinking, there are a lot of positives to be seen.

I was like she’s got loads of time and then I read the bit about PCOS and I understand more why you feel anxious. Big hugs! Can you send your partner some stats so he can understand the facts a bit more?

I'd prioritise the house then a baby with a very small wedding (or just marriage without the wedding part - much cheaper and less stress!) in between
I can understand the PCOS being a worrying factor for you

Use this time to prep your body for pregnancy so that you are fit and ready to start trying as soon as your lifestyle permits. Pcos can be helped massively by diet and exercise - as I'm sure you know- low carb, intermittent fasting, Myo inositol, vitamins etc., exercise all help to get your cycles in check and ovulation regular. Start tracking on a cycles app. Your partner can prep too- give up drinking, alcohol and smoking and take up exercise. Also agree a cheaper, quicker wedding is an option to consider.

I was worried about time ticking when I got serious with DH at 32! So we had a baby, then bought a house, then got married!
I got pregnant easily but didn’t have PCOS to contend with and I can see that makes things more stressful.
Id probably recommend marriage earlier for legal protection, I was fine but many women in here tell a very different tale. Owning a house is not the be all and end all goal of life. But if you want children with your BF then it’s probably worth having a conversation about when he envisages this.

I would get some medical advice about your fertility and have a serious conversation with your partner about a realistic time frame.

A wedding can be as big/small as works for you so could be shortly after getting engaged or later.